What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to Survey

What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to SurveyMy Uncle Jeff had a copy of a book in his living room title, “A Man’s Guide to Understanding Women.” When you flipped through the 200 pages, you realized they were blank. 

It was a good laugh and still is today but I remember being slightly bummed out when I initially tried reading it as a teen. 

The realization that I would never get laid before I started college stressed me out more than the acne I was battling. Of course, there is always some friend in your life that thinks he has it figured out and tries feeding you the kind of advice you might get from Mike Damone from the cult classic, Fast Times at Ridgemont High. 

At least Uncle Jeff’s book was accurate. Well, turns out…what women consider good qualities in men is a bit of a surprise, according to recent surveys conducted by BestLifeOnline.com and New Jersey’s Opinion Research Corporation. Spoiler alert: it’s not “manliness” or taking control. 

The survey data is solid and the surveyors went through the trouble to ask over 1,000 women with the very drastic age range of 21-54 years old. 

As much as you need to work on those six-pack abs and not look like a general slob, women still prefer personality over looks. 

In fact, 66 percent of surveyed women feel that moral integrity is a big turn on along with kindness (at 67%). Basically, you need to have a moral compass and not be a shit bag. Just a mere 13 percent claimed to care about muscles (not that one!). 

Guys that can be faithful, have a sense of humor, be a good listener and have decent fashion sense also snagged top spots. I have to wonder…are they looking for a straight guy? 

Still, it’s good to know that some of the pressure is off and we can still work at some of these traits.

And the good news is that women still rank being good in bed as a very desired trait as well. Can’t wait to share these findings with Uncle Jeff. 

The 4 Best Sexual Positions You Should Try That Aren’t Freaky 

The 4 Best Sexual Positions You Should Try That Aren’t Freaky 

If your girlfriend or partner is anything like mine, you have certainly fallen into a sexual slump of sorts. Between our careers, our pets and the demands of day-to-day life and stress, the most we can hope for is a quicky missionary style position squeezed between a workout and a shower.  

That’s not to say that I don’t get off and I really hope that she does, but I have to admit that I sometimes look forward to getting myself off—at least in my mind we are doing it doggy style. 

So, in my quest to get her off and allowing me to look forward to more than a tug in the shower, I decided to look for new sexual positions that aren’t too freaky or would lead to a chiropractor visit for both of us. 

Just to make sure that we were on the same page, I involved her in my sexual positions research. The research was the best part and we walked away with what we consider the best sexual positions that aren’t freaky and feel amazing! 

The cowgirl.   I started with this one because it became my girlfriend’s favorite position and there are many reasons starting with easy access to the man in the boat. The cowgirl is basically when your girl is on top. But it’s not enough for her to just be on top and you end up doing all the damn work. If that is your plan then don’t waste your time. She has to be into it and give your testicles a little love (gently) while she is doing half the work on top. Bonus points for allowing a little more pull out and thrust. Get your rhythm right and you are in for a wild ride! 

Reverse cowgirl.   She is going to love this position more than you will mostly because you won’t be able to see her breasts while thrusting but then again…it’s all about both of you getting off, am I right? This simple position is the cowgirl but she has her back to you allowing for more clitoris play but allows you to focus on a deeper reach (if you know what I mean). 

The naughty missionary.   I know I started off with missionary style as the standard go-to so a good way to ease into a new sexual position is to work with what you know. If you find it hard to try something too crazy and if she is flexible and willing, try having her put her legs in missionary style behind your knees. Take things up a notch by using a pillow under her buttocks to raise up her hips. This adds a bit of comfort and allows you to reach her “g” spot with ease. 

Bend over.  This position has become a new favorite and gets you out of the bedroom. Basically, you have her bend over a chair or better yet, a soft armrest on a chair and go to town doggy-style from behind. The nice part about this position is that it can be spontaneous and saves both of your knees. Keep in mind that she will want to pick a chair, table or armrest that allows her to bend over at the waist. 

One last thing I will leave you with is that adding a mirror and playing voyeur is going to take all of these positions to a new level. Need a little help lasting longer? Check out our blog on 6 tips to help guys last longer.

Netflix and Chill and Other Ways to Get Her in the Mood

Foreplay Tips for Guys that are Guaranteed to Turn Her On

Foreplay sometimes takes a back seat once you are in a long-term relationship but foreplay plays a very important role in your sex life—no matter how long you have been together. 

And believe it or not, guys love foreplay as much as women. Here are some ways to drive her crazy before you are even in bed. 

Slow your roll.   Take your time and whatever foreplay you are engaging in don’t rush. This is bound to drive you both wild and that is the whole point. 

Massages can and DO lead to sex.   Well, if you do it right. My girlfriend thinks I give the worst back massages and describes them as downright painful. Instead, I checked out a few videos of foot massages online and mastered the perfect foot massage. It’s less strenuous than going to town on someone’s back and if you have a foot fetish (which I do) it’s a turn-on for both of you. 

Include her in the dirty talk.  I am really into talking dirty but sometimes I realize I am having a one-way conversation about what I want to do to her without mentioning how hot her ass is or how good she smells. 

Kiss more.   Have a good ol’ fashioned makeout session on the sofa focusing on just kissing. I learned this one night by accident. We were having a Netflix and Chill night and we just went for it on the sofa. Of course, being a guy, I stopped kissing her a bit earlier than she liked. 

Take charge.    And by taking charge I don’t mean caveman style. Don’t be timid about what you want to do to her. One of the biggest turnoffs according to my girlfriend is when I ask her, “do you like this?” Instead, own that light smack to the ass. 

Don’t neglect the rest of her body.   It goes without saying that you should spend some time stimulating her via nipples or clitoris, but soft, gentle strokes along her sides, arms or buttocks goes a looong way—for both of you. 

Last but not least, ask her what she likes. This is a question that most women are dying to be asked whether it applies to sex or sushi. 

8 Ways to Turn on a Woman With Minimal Effort 

8 Ways to Turn on a Woman With Minimal Effort 

You may not believe this but it doesn’t take much to turn on a woman. No really. So, stop trying to rack your brain to understand woman on how to get them in the mood. 

Here are 8 ways to turn on a woman with minimal effort:

Cook dinner.  Seriously, throw on an apron, chop up some veggies, sear some meats and turn up the heat in the kitchen and in the bedroom. Here are 25 dinners that you can’t mess up. 

Make coffee.  You don’t even have to bring it to her, but simply set it the night before and have it ready to slurp in the morning. 

Get along with and pretend you like her pet.  Even if you hate cats or happen to be allergic to them, pop some Claritin and snuggle up with “Whiskers” even if he/she wants to claw your eyes out. A little love for her pet means a lot of love in the bedroom. 

Don’t ask or expect recipricol oral pleasure.  Sometimes you have to take one for the team and this is especially true for oral sex which will lead to more sex. 

Clean up.   A little goes a long way when it comes to cleaning up. You don’t have to scrub every surface but pick up some socks, drop the toilet seat (give it a quick scrub if you can) and remove any dishes in the sink. A woman that comes home to a clean apartment will practically jump your bones before you have a chance to take off those dirty socks before you drop them on the floor again. Here’s another reason why you should be doing the dishes.

Unexpected affection.  A quick kiss on the neck while her back is to you or cradled hug or sliding her legs onto your lap while watching TV will lead to a Netflix and Chill night. Here are 8 movies that will get her in the mood for sex.

Give her a massage.   Take your time, slow down and don’t rush. We are talking a real massage that lasts at least 3 minutes. Avoid the temptation to hurry up, press a few shoulder muscles and expect to roll over and go at it. 

Grooming.   You may be tempted to slip into your sweats and take a comfortable position on the couch watching sports. Take a quick shower and invest in some decent-smelling body washes that will drive her crazy. Here are 4 of the best selling body wash scents for men that women like. 

Tinder Releases the Most Desirable Jobs that Make Female Users Swipe Right 

Tinder Releases the Most Desirable Jobs that Make Users Swipe Right 

The right-swipe doesn’t lie on the popular dating app, Tinder. In case you have been under a rock or haven’t been single in the last 10 years, swiping right is a good thing. 

If you thought becoming a doctor would get you more dates or laid, think again. Times they are changin’ and so are the careers that women find the most attractive in guys. 

Tinder recently released its list of the jobs of U.S. user profiles that get the most right swipes in 2018. I hope you’re sitting down because the number one job that got the most right-swipes was…drumroll….an INTERIOR DESIGNER. Yes, you read that right. Don’t despair the usual careers made the list. And there is always this handy list of the best films for a Netflix and Chill night. 

Here is a breakdown of the list ranked in order of popularity (right swipes). 

GUYS:

  1. Interior Designer
  2. Pilot
  3. Physician’s Assistant
  4. Lawyer
  5. PR / Communications
  6. Producer
  7. Visual Designer
  8. Model
  9. College / Graduate Student
  10. Engineer
  11. Veterinarian
  12. Teacher
  13. Chiropractor
  14. Firefighter / Paramedic
  15. Founder / Entrepreneur

7 Things That Gross Out and Turn Off Women in Bed 

7 Things That Gross Out and Turn Off Women in Bed

The night started off so great. A good dinner, some wine, more libations, a little more libations and the next thing you know, she’s onto what you have had on your mind the whole night—you are both going to get some hot ass. 

That is until you don’t and have zero understanding of what went wrong. Here are 7 clues that you might have missed for what might have ruined the mood. 

—Smells.  I think it goes without saying that ripping off a fart is bad form whether you are having sex, eating or just Netflix and chill.  The practice of flatuence is best done when alone or when you have privacy.  However, don’t forget about smelly breath, and pungent orders from sweat-soaked socks that even if removed you might want to give a good scrubbing. 

—Ablutions.  If you plan on doing some prep work such as a good swig of mouthwash, a little freshen’ up to the penis and butt crack (all good ideas) do so behind closed doors. No one wans to see you crouched over the counter spraying your balls. Slip into the bathroom or ask for some privacy if you need it. 

—Tidy up.   How nasty is your comforter? Does it have obvious stains from spooge or pizza crusts and crumbs all in the covers? Take the time to at least made the bed an inviting place to do have sex. After all, you want her focus on being on top not what’s on top of the comforter. 

—Nasty feet.  When was the last time to trimmed your toenails? Is there any sign of toe cheese? Believe it or not, women actually pay attention to what your feet look like even If you don’t. So, take the time to give your feet a quick look and do some quick maintainece if needed. 

—Voyeur pets.  Got a dog or cat that likes to watch? You may want to clear it with her first. And it’s hard to predict whether whiskers wants to get in on the action by licking your feet, hers or sticking a nose where it’s not expected or wanted. Send them out of the room with a treat or the promise of a walk….later after you’re done. 

—No foreplay.  You may be ready to go but take the time to turn her on through a little foreplay before getting busy. This also allows you to test how freaky she might get between the sheets. 

—Burps.  This might qualify under the smells department but not all burps are created equal and a large, guttural, window-shaking belch even sans smell is just too palpable. 

5 Really Random Things that are a Turn On for Women  

5 Really Random Things that are a Turn On for Women

Last week, I decided to have a Netflix and Chill night with my girlfriend and I was totally freaked out after she grabbed me right when I walked in the door. Nothing freaky about that outside of the fact that I hadn’t shaved in over a week and had more like a 10-o-clock shadow and I was wearing sweatpants and a plan white t-shirt. I also hadn’t showered since I left the gym 12 hours earlier.

Normally, I would work hard to get her in the mood. We are talking a hot shower, a close shave, a shirt (with at least one button) and some jeans. I might even meet her at the door with a glass of wine. I’ve even considered answering the door naked because that would drive me wild if she did.

Turns out, most women don’t want to know or see how it’s hangin’, according to studies. Here is a list of what actually turns on women and it’s not what you think. Like most things with women, it’s the polar opposite of what you expect it to be.

1. Hands—Yes, women do care about a man’s hands. In particular, they really care about the length of a man’s ring finger. If their ring finger is longer than their index finger they are more likely to get laid, according to one Men whose ring fingers are longer than their index fingers are seen as better bets by women, one study found. Small hands? Yup, you may have a harder time having sex.

2. Don’t shave—Putting your razor away for around 10-days (based on average growth rate in men) produces the right amount of stubble to drive her crazy. However, she still cares if its properly groomed, so don’t go Grizzly Adams. Here’s a handy guide for beard styles and grooming. https://manscapeblog.com/2017/07/18/summer-beard-style-guide-for-men-2017/

3. Scent of a man—ditch the heavy cologne or manly body wash. Women are more turned on by the smell of a combo of Good-n-Plenty candy and cucumber. However, here is a guide of what you should eat that would make guys smell attractive.

4. Timing is everything—believe it or not there is a better time of day to have sex. One study claims it’s 3:00pm, so if the mood strikes you late afternoon squeeze it in!

5. Be nice—if you ever needed motivation to volunteer for a charity this would be it. Women that witness men being kind to others or even furry creatures is a major turn-on.