New Study Shows How Often We Think About Sex and With Whom We Share our Sexual Adventures

New Study Shows How Often We Think and Share our Sexual Adventures

A new study conducted by OnePoll for the beauty and bedroom accessories company, Pure Romance asked American men and women how often they think about sex. Additionally, the study found that women share their own sexual exploits as much as men. 

Overall, Americans admitted to thinking about sex on average eight times a day. And turns out, women think about sex more than most guys realize. In fact, women think about sex seven times a day while guys think about sex nine times a day. 

Of those surveyed, 65 percent were chill about sharing the deets on their sex life with the average man or woman sharing what happens between the sheets with up to four people. 

So….who the heck are Americans sharing their sex lives with?

According to the survey we are sharing our sex life with:

61% spouse/significant other 

60% best or close friends

40%  friends 

28%  co-workers

26% roommates

The first stat makes sense given that you should be discussing sex with your girlfriend and we all share our sex lives with our closest or casual friends. The roommates and co-workers were a little odd. Unless you work with your best bud, you shouldn’t be sharing your sex life with your co-workers and your roommates know what you are up to sexually or at least what hook-ups you’ve had in a week. I mean, why would only 26% share with their roommates…they know already. 

Taking into account the percentages of people we talk about our sex lives with, Americans on average will share their sexual accounts with up to four different people. Not to go all Freudian but 17% of men share their sex life with their mothers and 20% of men share their sexual adventures with their dads. Personally speaking, I have never shared any sexual details with my mother and I think it’s downright gross. 

Who do you typically tell about your sex life?

Boost Your Sex Drive With These 5 Foods

5 Foods That Boost Your Sex Drive

You are what you eat and if you are looking to perform better in the bedroom then you will want to start by eating these 5 foods.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Celery.  There has been quite a bit of buzz surrounding celery juice and for good reason. The long, green stalky veggie contains androsterone and adrostenal which work to give you your sexy back or at least feel that way.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Spinach/kale. Dark, green leafy veggies are not just good for your overall health but are chock-full of vitamin A which helps keep your hormonal balance in check. If you are like me and hate kale feel free to go with a spinach salad or smoothie instead.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Dark chocolate. It won’t be hard to tempt your date or partner to eat some dark chocolate especially when it contains phenylethylamine. Phenylethylamine contains an endorphin that creates the same kind of high you feel when you believe you are in love.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Blueberries/strawberries. Berries are good for your health and sex drive. Blueberries contain antioxidants that are amazing for your circulation which travels “all over your body.” As for the strawberries, the benefits are also plentiful. Strawberries are packed full of vitamin c and potassium and more importantly, omega-3 fatty acids which keep your cardiovascular system healthy which means you can last longer.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Nuts. No pun intended but the whole nut family contains a plethora of fatty acids which boost endorphins and dilate those blood vessels which in turn, kicks up blood flow to your penis. You’re welcome.

The 4 Best Sexual Positions You Should Try That Aren’t Freaky 

The 4 Best Sexual Positions You Should Try That Aren’t Freaky 

If your girlfriend or partner is anything like mine, you have certainly fallen into a sexual slump of sorts. Between our careers, our pets and the demands of day-to-day life and stress, the most we can hope for is a quicky missionary style position squeezed between a workout and a shower.  

That’s not to say that I don’t get off and I really hope that she does, but I have to admit that I sometimes look forward to getting myself off—at least in my mind we are doing it doggy style. 

So, in my quest to get her off and allowing me to look forward to more than a tug in the shower, I decided to look for new sexual positions that aren’t too freaky or would lead to a chiropractor visit for both of us. 

Just to make sure that we were on the same page, I involved her in my sexual positions research. The research was the best part and we walked away with what we consider the best sexual positions that aren’t freaky and feel amazing! 

The cowgirl.   I started with this one because it became my girlfriend’s favorite position and there are many reasons starting with easy access to the man in the boat. The cowgirl is basically when your girl is on top. But it’s not enough for her to just be on top and you end up doing all the damn work. If that is your plan then don’t waste your time. She has to be into it and give your testicles a little love (gently) while she is doing half the work on top. Bonus points for allowing a little more pull out and thrust. Get your rhythm right and you are in for a wild ride! 

Reverse cowgirl.   She is going to love this position more than you will mostly because you won’t be able to see her breasts while thrusting but then again…it’s all about both of you getting off, am I right? This simple position is the cowgirl but she has her back to you allowing for more clitoris play but allows you to focus on a deeper reach (if you know what I mean). 

The naughty missionary.   I know I started off with missionary style as the standard go-to so a good way to ease into a new sexual position is to work with what you know. If you find it hard to try something too crazy and if she is flexible and willing, try having her put her legs in missionary style behind your knees. Take things up a notch by using a pillow under her buttocks to raise up her hips. This adds a bit of comfort and allows you to reach her “g” spot with ease. 

Bend over.  This position has become a new favorite and gets you out of the bedroom. Basically, you have her bend over a chair or better yet, a soft armrest on a chair and go to town doggy-style from behind. The nice part about this position is that it can be spontaneous and saves both of your knees. Keep in mind that she will want to pick a chair, table or armrest that allows her to bend over at the waist. 

One last thing I will leave you with is that adding a mirror and playing voyeur is going to take all of these positions to a new level. Need a little help lasting longer? Check out our blog on 6 tips to help guys last longer.

New Study Shows Fewer Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rising STDs

New Study Shows Less Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rise of STDs

The amount of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are at an all-time high right now, according to data from the CDC or Centers for Disease Control. That means that “the clap” is also at an all-time high and that is nothing to applaud about. 

It should also come as no surprise that those numbers are higher because less-and-less guys are wrapping it up or using a condom. 

I was in college in the mid1990s and condoms and safe sex was everywhere. In fact, I remember going to clubs and there were baskets of condoms that someone was usually handing out or they were just sitting on the bar for the taking. 

Then again, the AIDS epidemic was very real back then and I was more fearful of contracting HIV then chlamydia but then again, I didn’t want to get that either. I lost my virginity using a condom on prom night in high school. 

It was years before I went hot-doggin’ without a condom. I was a senior in college before I got the nerve to go without one and I had been in a steady relationship for a few months. We also both got tested together and before we hopped into bed.

Now, the sensation is better. There is no denying that and it’s definitely more intense but the idea of dealing with getting tested, contracting herpes or experiencing the pain and burning while peeing then showing up in a clinic with a drippy Johnson is not worth it. 

I’ve managed to dodge the STD bullet thanks to condoms and for those continue to have casual sex with several partners here are the most common symptoms of STDs in guys:

Blisters on or around the penis.

Spots, bumps or lesions on the penis

Discharge (clear, white, or yellow)

Oozing from the tip of the penis (thick or thin)

Painful urination

Painful ejaculation

Itching on the tip of the penis

OR, you might not have any symptoms and you are spreading this shit to every girl you’re sleeping with which means you are also spreading it to other guys. One thing I can tell you, all of those symptoms will certainly mess up your sex life if you get them which is much worse than wearing a condom.

15 Fun Facts About Sex You Have Always Wanted to Know But Were Afraid to Google

15 Fun Facts About Sex You Have Always Wanted to Know But Were Afraid to Google

Let’s talk about sex, shall we? Have you ever wondered how many calories you actually burn during sex? Do women actually enjoy giving oral sex? Is nipple play a thing?

Enough foreplay, let’s get down to 15 fun facts about sex. 

The average man experiences 11 boners a day and an additional 9 at night. No wonder guys are so horny. If you fear these erections, you suffer from an actual phobia called, ithyphallophobia. Who knew, right?

Apparently, higher education leads to oral education. Women who attended college are more likely to enjoy receiving oral sex and reciprocate as well. 

Married people having plenty of sex—with themselves! Depending on how you look at it, married people tend to masturbate more than their living single counterparts. 

Sex toys are nothing new under the sun. Cave drawings dating back some 30,000 years left us with some pretty steamy images of dildos and people using them. 

If you have never earned your “red wings” you are not alone as around 70% of men don’t have sex when their partner is menstruating. 

Speaking of periods, if a women is on a regular schedule for sex (once a week), she is more likely to have a predictable period cycle. 

People all over the world are still having sex—lots of it! On any given day, 100 million people are engaging in sex. 

If the word, clitoris” makes you squirm, it shouldn’t. It gets its name from the Greek word meaning, goddless like or divine. 

Nipplegasm is a thing. That’s right, there are women out there that get off simply by nipple tweaking. 

Forget Pornhub, Deep Throat is still considered tops in the X-rated movie genre. 

We should really learn to put down our phones more. It’s estimated that 1 in 5 people are still on their damn smartphones during intercourse. And forget hitting the showers, 36% of people turn to social media post coital. This is depressing. 

Guys experience an average time of 6 seconds per orgams while female orgasms last around 20 seconds on average. 

Want more sex dreams? Try changing your sleeping position to your stomach and keep your arms over your head. 

Having issues getting a woman to orgasm? Well, she might have cold feet. No really. Keep her tootsies toasty. 

The bedroom still remains the most popular place to have sex but you might be surprised to learn that the second place would be a vehicle. Privacy is overrated. 

Sex on the First Date Is Socially Acceptable According to OkCupid Survey

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Truth be told, as a red-blooded male, I am always down to have sex on the first date even if I find my date annoying and unattractive. I know, I know…I realize it makes me a bit of a dog but the final decision is always left up to her and my answer is always, yes. 

Back in the day, having sex on the first date (mostly for girls) was a social faux pas. But times they are a changin’ according to a recent survey released by the dating site, OkCupid. 

Here is one glaring takeaway from this survey that every guy should know that will make you feel a little better about that first date. In fact, she is more likely to be DTF than you think. 

A whopping 46% of OkCupid users said they would have sex on the first date. That’s nearly 50% of female and male respondents. 

The numbers don’t lie and point to a different overall attitude about how our society views casual sex. In fact, if you have no plans on seeing that person again or at least not planning solid plans to do so—it’s casual sex. Well, at least in the moment. 

The numbers point to a more relaxed and honest view to sex rather then intercourse becoming the-BE-ALL-END-ALL. It might have taken at least 50 years, but perhaps, we are finally past the unfair stigma attached to sex and dating. 

This is not to say that sex doesn’t matter. I remember hooking up on a first date and entering into a long-term relationship with a girl when we were both in our early twenties. And maybe that is what has evolved. Instead of treating sex like it’s all that matters, it becomes just part of the dating world and before a commitment is yet to be made. 

Perhaps, the biggest reason for this shift in how we weigh the cost of sexual intercourse while dating is best measured and changed by the level of honesty and dare I say it, the feminist movement that woman can enjoy sex without commitments as well—which is fine with me.

What do you think of casual sex being embraced in today’s dating world. Is it for real or just complete bullshit?

Penis Shrinkage is a Real Thing for Guys

Penis Shrinkage is a Real Thing for Guys

There is a famous episode of the sitcom, Seinfeld where the character George Costanza literally gets caught with his pants down. Actually, it was his swimsuit following exposure to cold water. In case you were wondering this unfortunate function is caused by the sympathetic nervous system.

But can your penis actually get smaller without help from freezing water or a cold breeze? The answer is just as frightening as a flaccid penis and that answer is, kinda. In fact, there is also a medical term for a fully-erect penis called, tumescence. 

So, besides a cold shower what else could lead to penis shrinkage? Well, erections are fueled by blood flow which can wane a bit as you get older and also impact the production of testosterone. Guys with heart disease, diabetes, and thyroid conditions could be seeing changes in the length of time they can hold an erection, not the actual size.

If you are concerned there are some simple steps you can take to combat every guy’s worst nightmare. For starters, hit the gym. Exercise is good for your heart, blood flow, and testosterone.

You can check out this blog on the best exercises you can do to perform better in bed

Of course, a healthy diet is always a good idea. Find out what food you should be eating to boost your overall health and stamina in the blog 11 foods that boost your health and stamina

Lastly, keep in mind that having sex at the right time of day does play a factor in your performance and tumescence.

Don’t freak out if you are having shrinkage issues. Call your doctor, make an appointment to get everything checked out and while you’re at it, get cleared before introducing any new diet or exercise program mentioned above.