The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

In this blog, we talk quite a bit about erections, sex, foods that help erections and pretty much anything related to guys and sex. What we haven’t touched on are other methods to keep an erection outside of what to eat or what not to eat to keep your sexual stamina flowing. 

Turns out, sex toys are not only for women and can do quite a bit for guys and how long they last in bed. I recently reached out to a gal that held a sex toy party at my house for my girlfriend’s book club. I was told to make myself scarce as nervous giggles gave way to outright laughter while a living room full of woman dug into the dip and discussed the best vibrators to climax. Believe me, I would have liked to have stayed. 

What I did do was snag a business card and hit her up for some advice. She asked that I not use her name because the sex toy party franchise for which she worked would not give her permission. However, what she did allow me to share is sexual stamina gold. 

Here are the best sex toys for guys to last longer in bed:

Cock/Penis Rings 

This is essentially the go-to for guys when trying to reach and keep their climax going. Cock rings help bring more blood flow to the penis leading to more stamina. The other benefit of cock rings is that they are relatively inexpensive and very effective. What matters the most is that YOU READ the directions and follow them. Thankfully, it’s not as complicated as putting together IKEA furniture and quite harmless. 

Penis Pumps

I know what you are picturing or at least hearing in your head, Austin Powers. But penis pumps should be your bag, baby, because the right one does work. Again, like the cock ring, it’s all about the blood flow to your penis and more importantly, increasing the blood flow. I was warned that it’s all about the frequency or consistency of using your penis pump. The more you use it on a regular basis the better and longer your erections. 

Lubricants and Salves

Lubes work and I have been personally using them along with ED natural supplements for a good five years. I use an erection stimulating cream that does exactly what its name implies. But there is more than one type. The other helps stave off sensation without killing it entirely which keeps you from having to think about Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day or following Frankie’s advice and Relax. I would rather feel all the sensation so the lube is a better avenue for me. 

Masturbation Sleeves

The best part about this sexual stamina aid is that practice makes perfect. Simply use it while treating your body as your personal amusement park. Using a masturbation sleeve not only eliminates the need to use your left hand as a “stranger” but it aids in learning to have more control over your orgasms and that’s the whole point to lasting longer.

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Not one but three recently-published studies found that men still want women to keep a clean house but the same is not expected of men. 

After (admittedly) only skimming all three studies, I wanted to share my perspective as a guy that keeps a tidy house and why I still hold women to the same standard and can’t understand why women don’t do the same to men.

Let’s start by going way back to the mid-90s. At the time I was still in college and busting my ass waiting tables at night. One evening after finishing my shift I picked up a girl that had what I call, “catnip.” She wasn’t pretty but she had a sexy vibe about her, a great figure and was super uninhibiated—all turn-ons for guys. 

One drink led to another and I took her back to my place. I hadn’t planned on getting laid that night so my apartment was not picked-up but not filthy either. I might have had some dishes in the sink and maybe a pair of dirty boxers on the floor but nothing had really accumulated. 

However, the piece of shit car that I drove her home that night was so clean you could eat off the floor. I remember her asking for a drink and asking to slip off to use the bathroom. As I fumbled through my nightstand trying to locate a condom, she emerged from the bathroom wearing nothing but a smile. It was a night of some of the best sex I have ever had. 

This, of course, led to another hook-up night. This time, she picked me up in her ride—a glorified sports car for the working class, the Geo Storm. 

I opened the door only to be hit with the pungent odor of what smelled like cat piss. But if that wasn’t enough to shock me, the floor of the car could not be seen because it was covered in compressed piles of old convenience-store cups, fast-food chain wrappers, and petrified french fries. The cloth seats also had so many stains that it was impossible to figure out the actual color. Assuming those stains might contain urine, I asked for a napkin to sit on. She obliged and fished out a stack of napkins from her glove compartment which appeared to have deep scratches from a rabid animal. 

The backseat was even worse. When I asked her how long she had had the car, she said it was less than a year old. I was already turned off before we even got to her apartment. My mind raced to wonder how nasty her place would be if her car looked like this. My suspicions and fears were confirmed.  In a metal cage in the corner, her wildlife aggressively tried to escape its confines to either attack me or more likely, take another piss. 

Turns out, she had a pet raccoon and the smell in her place matched the smell in her car.  Like her car, every surface was covered in discarded take-out boxes which made sense since she ran out of clean dishes and cookware which sat in the sink with the memory of old meals still stuck to its insides. 

This was not my proudest moment but while she readied herself in the bathroom, I bolted out of there, tracked down a payphone and called a buddy for a ride. 

I’m sure my actions hurt her enough to share the story with her friends over coffee or a cocktail but I was seriously concerned that I was going to catch an STD (thankfully, we had used a condom earlier). This is an extreme case but from that day forward—a made it a point to never date a woman that keeps a filthy car and to make sure that I never let my place get that disgusting either. I mean, if that was enough to turn me off to amazing sex, then I wondered how women would feel about that dirty pair of boxers or the fact that I hadn’t given two craps about simply rinsing food from my dishes.

To this day, I am a bit of a neat freak and I do most of the cleaning. My girlfriend appreciates this immensely and it makes our relationship much better.

Women should be holding men to a higher standard of cleanliness than they do and men should not have to feel like dickheads for not hooking up with a girl that doesn’t have enough sense to run a dishwasher or keep her floors clean enough that you can see the original color. 

Women (and this is just my opinion) typically have a harder time living with dirty boxers on the floor or whiskers clinging to toothpaste droppings in the sink, but you may have to start leaving it there for us guys to clean. Believe me, we will eventually cave because no one wants to look at that crap long term. 

As for guys, it’s time we all held ourselves to the same standard of cleanliness that is expected of our girlfriends and wives because no one wants to live like it’s Joe’s Apartment. 

In fact, another study published last year found that guys that bother to help out with household chores and grocery shopping had better sex and that’s a study we can all get behind.

Signs of Erectile Dysfunction and What You Can Do 

Signs of Erectile Dysfunction ED and What You Can Do 

Every guy at one point in their lives has had trouble getting it up or even keeping it up. It’s an unnerving moment and doesn’t just stress you out but steals a bit of your manhood when it happens. 

There are many reasons for losing an erection that may not necessarily mean you have ED or erectile dysfunction. Erections are impacted by several factors both physical and psychological so you shouldn’t take any chances and describe your symptoms and concerns with your doctor. 

Here are the basic signs of erectile dysfunction and some natural remedies that help with symptoms. 

—Reduced sexual drive.  Lost interest in sex? Yeah, that’s odd for most guys and could be one of the first signs. 

—Issues with keeping or getting an erection. Going limp or issues with getting hard is another obvious sign that you might have ED. 

There is a myriad of causes attributed to ED and some of them are serious like diabetes or heart disease so these tips to are just tips to help with symptoms. Reach out to your doctor before starting any new diet or exercise program. 

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Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed, sex and stoner films could have been the topic of my college thesis so a recent study on the topic of sex and orgasms in women makes total sense. 

The recent study released by The International Society for Sexual Medicine asked around 400 women over a year’s time about their sex lives. Turns out, the women (68.5%) that used marijuana before having intercourse reported having a more deleterious time when compared to those that didn’t. 

The benefits of enjoying grass before sex also extended to a stronger sex drive overall for a  whopping 60.6% of women. Of the 52.8% of women that enjoy marijuana with their sex reported enjoying more gratifying orgasms overall. 

For women that experience pain during sex (and not in a good way) the study’s results pointed to a drop in discomfort for women that consume marijuana on a regular basis.

Additionally, of those women that frequently use cannabis claimed to have enjoyed their orgasms twice as much as those that infrequently imbibe the plant. 

If you’ve ever smoked weed or enjoyed an edible you have no doubt mellowed out considerably and for some (myself included) dropped your inhibitions and got a little horny.

The researches of this study offered a more scientific reason for why women enjoyed sex and sexual satisfaction much more citing the connection between cannabinoid receptors hormonal release. 

The study’s results also pointed to an increase of neurotransmitter dopamine related to marijuana use which greatly impacts sexual function. 

However, the study researchers also pointed out that the plethora of cannabinoids out there so not all lead to the best sex she might have ever had or overall better sex life. Which basically means that there are other cannabinoids could find your girl sandwiches between a bag of chips and a tub of peanut butter rather than the sheets. 

Thankfully, I live in Colorado and can put this study to the test on an ongoing basis provided my girlfriend is a willing participant but I don’t think that will take too much coaxing for her or most women. 

 

 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

It happens to all guys. You are working your ass off to turn her on and then what was a hot moment turns ice cold as she just lays there or makes up an excuse to go home. 

Chances are, you did something in bed that was a big turn off. Here is a list of the biggest turn-offs for women so you can avoid doing them. 

—Spanking.   Unless she has asked for it and you KNOW it’s a turn one, refrain from the urge to give her a smack on the bottom. It doesn’t matter if you hit hard or just a light tap it’s still a turnoff. 

—Uncomfortable sex positions.  It’s always a good idea to try new things in the bedroom and different sexual positions are no exception as missionary position can get old. But if holding that position comes with a painful pulling sensation in her shoulder or neck, you can bet that is not the kind of pain she was looking for. Pay attention and consider which ones work best even if she’s into yoga. 

—Hickeys or biting.   This falls into the same category as spanking. If you are certain that she’s got a thing for vampires and enjoys the pressing of teeth into her neck, then try it. Otherwise, steer clear of it and also consider that it’s not sanitary either. Hickeys are a bit tacky at the office anyways. Just skip it. 

—Hair pulling.  A little pull to show dominance is great but severe pulling of hair hurts like hell and can shift the mood pretty fast in the bedroom. If you know what you are doing then test it out, otherwise…stroke instead of pull. 

—Too much dirty talk.  Most of us enjoy a little dirty talk and even some role-playing but there such thing as too much of a good thing when your fantasy gets nasty. 

—Sloppy oral that never ends.  Women really appreciate oral so, by all means, go for it but if you’ve been down there awhile come up for air and make sure all the work you’re doing is working. 

—Quick cleanup.  Getting up and grabbing a towel is one thing, but taking that window of time following intimacy to all of the sudden want to clean the sheets and clean off nightstands is a turnoff. Leave a tender moment alone. 

—Silent sex.  This obviously doesn’t apply to avoid alerting anyone to your romp. Throw in a moan in there or tell her how good it feels. Long periods of silence is just weird. 

—Weird mood music.  One of my female friends once described a creepy incident with a guy she had started dating. He decided to create a playlist to get her in the mood. Turns out, he was really into death metal. She high-tailed it out of there and never saw him again. 

In the end, it’s all about communication so just pay attention to your partner and how they react to what you are doing. Who knows…maybe she is into spanking wouldn’t hurt to ask.

New Study Shows Fewer Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rising STDs

New Study Shows Less Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rise of STDs

The amount of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are at an all-time high right now, according to data from the CDC or Centers for Disease Control. That means that “the clap” is also at an all-time high and that is nothing to applaud about. 

It should also come as no surprise that those numbers are higher because less-and-less guys are wrapping it up or using a condom. 

I was in college in the mid1990s and condoms and safe sex was everywhere. In fact, I remember going to clubs and there were baskets of condoms that someone was usually handing out or they were just sitting on the bar for the taking. 

Then again, the AIDS epidemic was very real back then and I was more fearful of contracting HIV then chlamydia but then again, I didn’t want to get that either. I lost my virginity using a condom on prom night in high school. 

It was years before I went hot-doggin’ without a condom. I was a senior in college before I got the nerve to go without one and I had been in a steady relationship for a few months. We also both got tested together and before we hopped into bed.

Now, the sensation is better. There is no denying that and it’s definitely more intense but the idea of dealing with getting tested, contracting herpes or experiencing the pain and burning while peeing then showing up in a clinic with a drippy Johnson is not worth it. 

I’ve managed to dodge the STD bullet thanks to condoms and for those continue to have casual sex with several partners here are the most common symptoms of STDs in guys:

Blisters on or around the penis.

Spots, bumps or lesions on the penis

Discharge (clear, white, or yellow)

Oozing from the tip of the penis (thick or thin)

Painful urination

Painful ejaculation

Itching on the tip of the penis

OR, you might not have any symptoms and you are spreading this shit to every girl you’re sleeping with which means you are also spreading it to other guys. One thing I can tell you, all of those symptoms will certainly mess up your sex life if you get them which is much worse than wearing a condom.

Netflix and Chill and Other Ways to Get Her in the Mood

Foreplay Tips for Guys that are Guaranteed to Turn Her On

Foreplay sometimes takes a back seat once you are in a long-term relationship but foreplay plays a very important role in your sex life—no matter how long you have been together. 

And believe it or not, guys love foreplay as much as women. Here are some ways to drive her crazy before you are even in bed. 

Slow your roll.   Take your time and whatever foreplay you are engaging in don’t rush. This is bound to drive you both wild and that is the whole point. 

Massages can and DO lead to sex.   Well, if you do it right. My girlfriend thinks I give the worst back massages and describes them as downright painful. Instead, I checked out a few videos of foot massages online and mastered the perfect foot massage. It’s less strenuous than going to town on someone’s back and if you have a foot fetish (which I do) it’s a turn-on for both of you. 

Include her in the dirty talk.  I am really into talking dirty but sometimes I realize I am having a one-way conversation about what I want to do to her without mentioning how hot her ass is or how good she smells. 

Kiss more.   Have a good ol’ fashioned makeout session on the sofa focusing on just kissing. I learned this one night by accident. We were having a Netflix and Chill night and we just went for it on the sofa. Of course, being a guy, I stopped kissing her a bit earlier than she liked. 

Take charge.    And by taking charge I don’t mean caveman style. Don’t be timid about what you want to do to her. One of the biggest turnoffs according to my girlfriend is when I ask her, “do you like this?” Instead, own that light smack to the ass. 

Don’t neglect the rest of her body.   It goes without saying that you should spend some time stimulating her via nipples or clitoris, but soft, gentle strokes along her sides, arms or buttocks goes a looong way—for both of you. 

Last but not least, ask her what she likes. This is a question that most women are dying to be asked whether it applies to sex or sushi. 

Guys With Better Personalities Get Laid More According to Study

Guys With Better Personalities Get Laid More According to StudyWant to get laid more? You may want to work on your personality, according to an Australian study. 

Late last year, Queensland University of Technology dug a little deeper into a sex study back in 2016. Researchers found that of the1,500 women and 3,000 men surveyed that the personality of the guys made quite an impact on sexual preferences. 

Guys that were more outgoing or extroverted with a more balanced emotional level had more sex. Turns out, it’s a turn on for a guy to be outgoing, aware of others and generally mentally stable. 

This should come as zero surprise to any guy out there that has dated. It’s the one that comes of as confident (even if he’s not), will listen to his date’s story about her co-worker that is out to get her and is not a psycho. It’s not a tall order just dating 101. 

Like it or not, truly confident or not, guys that exude confidence and are mentally stable get laid more. Women see these personality traits are safe which means they are more likely to go home with them.

The study did not specify if men felt the same way but I can tell you from personal experience that some of the hottest women I have dated were not mentally stable. 

8 Ways to Turn on a Woman With Minimal Effort 

8 Ways to Turn on a Woman With Minimal Effort 

You may not believe this but it doesn’t take much to turn on a woman. No really. So, stop trying to rack your brain to understand woman on how to get them in the mood. 

Here are 8 ways to turn on a woman with minimal effort:

Cook dinner.  Seriously, throw on an apron, chop up some veggies, sear some meats and turn up the heat in the kitchen and in the bedroom. Here are 25 dinners that you can’t mess up. 

Make coffee.  You don’t even have to bring it to her, but simply set it the night before and have it ready to slurp in the morning. 

Get along with and pretend you like her pet.  Even if you hate cats or happen to be allergic to them, pop some Claritin and snuggle up with “Whiskers” even if he/she wants to claw your eyes out. A little love for her pet means a lot of love in the bedroom. 

Don’t ask or expect recipricol oral pleasure.  Sometimes you have to take one for the team and this is especially true for oral sex which will lead to more sex. 

Clean up.   A little goes a long way when it comes to cleaning up. You don’t have to scrub every surface but pick up some socks, drop the toilet seat (give it a quick scrub if you can) and remove any dishes in the sink. A woman that comes home to a clean apartment will practically jump your bones before you have a chance to take off those dirty socks before you drop them on the floor again. Here’s another reason why you should be doing the dishes.

Unexpected affection.  A quick kiss on the neck while her back is to you or cradled hug or sliding her legs onto your lap while watching TV will lead to a Netflix and Chill night. Here are 8 movies that will get her in the mood for sex.

Give her a massage.   Take your time, slow down and don’t rush. We are talking a real massage that lasts at least 3 minutes. Avoid the temptation to hurry up, press a few shoulder muscles and expect to roll over and go at it. 

Grooming.   You may be tempted to slip into your sweats and take a comfortable position on the couch watching sports. Take a quick shower and invest in some decent-smelling body washes that will drive her crazy. Here are 4 of the best selling body wash scents for men that women like. 

Got Erectile Dysfunction? Could Be Bad Genes Says Study

Got Erectile Dysfunction? Could Be Bad Genes Says Study

If you needed another reason to blame your family you can add ED or erectile dysfunction to the list. Turns out, your genes could be one reason you have trouble keeping an erection, according to a recent survey released by Kaiser Permanente. 

The holidays are getting close so I don’t want to get anyone so pissed off that this comes up as the topic of conversation while dinner rolls are passed over the warmth of a turkey and the coldness of relatives. 

It’s merely to shed some insight on other factors to consider if you are having issues with ED or stamina or both. If you ruled out or shed some pounds, changed up your medications or diet (all under the guidance of your doctor or a medical professional) or eliminated some bad habits then your DNA might be the problem. 

Back to the survey. Kaiser dug a little deeper and actually got a shitton of Americans as in about 37,000 to consent to submitting their medical records for this study. I never questioned why or how they did but it might have something to do with the importance of satisfying your partner.

ED is a big f’in deal for guys. And as you might have guessed those participating that forked over their medical records had either been diagnosed with ED or treated for it. 

Remember how I mentioned shedding some pounds and erections? Well, that was the gene that the study highlighted. In particular, its the gene that has everything to do with getting hard—hard muscles, a hard erection and regulating your weight. 

It wasn’t a big surprise to medical professionals that genes do impact your erections. I mean, they impact whether you end up bald or fighting baldness and resorting to a combover.

However, what was EXCITING news was that scientists and your doctor may know why certains prescription medications such as Viagra have fallen short when it comes to treating ED in those with low testosterone. 

Of the 50% of guys that have ruled out other issues and still suffer from ED, the silver lining is that genetic-based treatments are on the horizon. 

Until that happens, here are some ways that you can help curb ED:

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