The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

In this blog, we talk quite a bit about erections, sex, foods that help erections and pretty much anything related to guys and sex. What we haven’t touched on are other methods to keep an erection outside of what to eat or what not to eat to keep your sexual stamina flowing. 

Turns out, sex toys are not only for women and can do quite a bit for guys and how long they last in bed. I recently reached out to a gal that held a sex toy party at my house for my girlfriend’s book club. I was told to make myself scarce as nervous giggles gave way to outright laughter while a living room full of woman dug into the dip and discussed the best vibrators to climax. Believe me, I would have liked to have stayed. 

What I did do was snag a business card and hit her up for some advice. She asked that I not use her name because the sex toy party franchise for which she worked would not give her permission. However, what she did allow me to share is sexual stamina gold. 

Here are the best sex toys for guys to last longer in bed:

Cock/Penis Rings 

This is essentially the go-to for guys when trying to reach and keep their climax going. Cock rings help bring more blood flow to the penis leading to more stamina. The other benefit of cock rings is that they are relatively inexpensive and very effective. What matters the most is that YOU READ the directions and follow them. Thankfully, it’s not as complicated as putting together IKEA furniture and quite harmless. 

Penis Pumps

I know what you are picturing or at least hearing in your head, Austin Powers. But penis pumps should be your bag, baby, because the right one does work. Again, like the cock ring, it’s all about the blood flow to your penis and more importantly, increasing the blood flow. I was warned that it’s all about the frequency or consistency of using your penis pump. The more you use it on a regular basis the better and longer your erections. 

Lubricants and Salves

Lubes work and I have been personally using them along with ED natural supplements for a good five years. I use an erection stimulating cream that does exactly what its name implies. But there is more than one type. The other helps stave off sensation without killing it entirely which keeps you from having to think about Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day or following Frankie’s advice and Relax. I would rather feel all the sensation so the lube is a better avenue for me. 

Masturbation Sleeves

The best part about this sexual stamina aid is that practice makes perfect. Simply use it while treating your body as your personal amusement park. Using a masturbation sleeve not only eliminates the need to use your left hand as a “stranger” but it aids in learning to have more control over your orgasms and that’s the whole point to lasting longer.

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Not one but three recently-published studies found that men still want women to keep a clean house but the same is not expected of men. 

After (admittedly) only skimming all three studies, I wanted to share my perspective as a guy that keeps a tidy house and why I still hold women to the same standard and can’t understand why women don’t do the same to men.

Let’s start by going way back to the mid-90s. At the time I was still in college and busting my ass waiting tables at night. One evening after finishing my shift I picked up a girl that had what I call, “catnip.” She wasn’t pretty but she had a sexy vibe about her, a great figure and was super uninhibiated—all turn-ons for guys. 

One drink led to another and I took her back to my place. I hadn’t planned on getting laid that night so my apartment was not picked-up but not filthy either. I might have had some dishes in the sink and maybe a pair of dirty boxers on the floor but nothing had really accumulated. 

However, the piece of shit car that I drove her home that night was so clean you could eat off the floor. I remember her asking for a drink and asking to slip off to use the bathroom. As I fumbled through my nightstand trying to locate a condom, she emerged from the bathroom wearing nothing but a smile. It was a night of some of the best sex I have ever had. 

This, of course, led to another hook-up night. This time, she picked me up in her ride—a glorified sports car for the working class, the Geo Storm. 

I opened the door only to be hit with the pungent odor of what smelled like cat piss. But if that wasn’t enough to shock me, the floor of the car could not be seen because it was covered in compressed piles of old convenience-store cups, fast-food chain wrappers, and petrified french fries. The cloth seats also had so many stains that it was impossible to figure out the actual color. Assuming those stains might contain urine, I asked for a napkin to sit on. She obliged and fished out a stack of napkins from her glove compartment which appeared to have deep scratches from a rabid animal. 

The backseat was even worse. When I asked her how long she had had the car, she said it was less than a year old. I was already turned off before we even got to her apartment. My mind raced to wonder how nasty her place would be if her car looked like this. My suspicions and fears were confirmed.  In a metal cage in the corner, her wildlife aggressively tried to escape its confines to either attack me or more likely, take another piss. 

Turns out, she had a pet raccoon and the smell in her place matched the smell in her car.  Like her car, every surface was covered in discarded take-out boxes which made sense since she ran out of clean dishes and cookware which sat in the sink with the memory of old meals still stuck to its insides. 

This was not my proudest moment but while she readied herself in the bathroom, I bolted out of there, tracked down a payphone and called a buddy for a ride. 

I’m sure my actions hurt her enough to share the story with her friends over coffee or a cocktail but I was seriously concerned that I was going to catch an STD (thankfully, we had used a condom earlier). This is an extreme case but from that day forward—a made it a point to never date a woman that keeps a filthy car and to make sure that I never let my place get that disgusting either. I mean, if that was enough to turn me off to amazing sex, then I wondered how women would feel about that dirty pair of boxers or the fact that I hadn’t given two craps about simply rinsing food from my dishes.

To this day, I am a bit of a neat freak and I do most of the cleaning. My girlfriend appreciates this immensely and it makes our relationship much better.

Women should be holding men to a higher standard of cleanliness than they do and men should not have to feel like dickheads for not hooking up with a girl that doesn’t have enough sense to run a dishwasher or keep her floors clean enough that you can see the original color. 

Women (and this is just my opinion) typically have a harder time living with dirty boxers on the floor or whiskers clinging to toothpaste droppings in the sink, but you may have to start leaving it there for us guys to clean. Believe me, we will eventually cave because no one wants to look at that crap long term. 

As for guys, it’s time we all held ourselves to the same standard of cleanliness that is expected of our girlfriends and wives because no one wants to live like it’s Joe’s Apartment. 

In fact, another study published last year found that guys that bother to help out with household chores and grocery shopping had better sex and that’s a study we can all get behind.

Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed, sex and stoner films could have been the topic of my college thesis so a recent study on the topic of sex and orgasms in women makes total sense. 

The recent study released by The International Society for Sexual Medicine asked around 400 women over a year’s time about their sex lives. Turns out, the women (68.5%) that used marijuana before having intercourse reported having a more deleterious time when compared to those that didn’t. 

The benefits of enjoying grass before sex also extended to a stronger sex drive overall for a  whopping 60.6% of women. Of the 52.8% of women that enjoy marijuana with their sex reported enjoying more gratifying orgasms overall. 

For women that experience pain during sex (and not in a good way) the study’s results pointed to a drop in discomfort for women that consume marijuana on a regular basis.

Additionally, of those women that frequently use cannabis claimed to have enjoyed their orgasms twice as much as those that infrequently imbibe the plant. 

If you’ve ever smoked weed or enjoyed an edible you have no doubt mellowed out considerably and for some (myself included) dropped your inhibitions and got a little horny.

The researches of this study offered a more scientific reason for why women enjoyed sex and sexual satisfaction much more citing the connection between cannabinoid receptors hormonal release. 

The study’s results also pointed to an increase of neurotransmitter dopamine related to marijuana use which greatly impacts sexual function. 

However, the study researchers also pointed out that the plethora of cannabinoids out there so not all lead to the best sex she might have ever had or overall better sex life. Which basically means that there are other cannabinoids could find your girl sandwiches between a bag of chips and a tub of peanut butter rather than the sheets. 

Thankfully, I live in Colorado and can put this study to the test on an ongoing basis provided my girlfriend is a willing participant but I don’t think that will take too much coaxing for her or most women. 

 

 

Recent Study Focuses on the Sex Lives of Men and Women Over 50

Recent Study Shows Focuses on Sex and Men and Women Over 50

Most of the sex surveys involving lots of sexual partners leave out those over 50 years-old. Which is why this recent survey from British researchers was an interesting take and long overdue.

The research dug deep into the lives of over 7,000 men and women over 50 and the results are somewhat surprising. Let’s start with the more obvious findings that are also stereotypically on point. 

Guys tend to have more sexual partners during their lifetime than women. And guys with more money or higher on the economic ladder and especially over 50, tend to have even more partners. But there was also good news for the broke guys out there. The study also pointed to the lower 20% of economic status with a higher amount of sexual partners. 

Sex experts attribute the amount of sex and partners more affluent older men have to a life with less of the stress that life brings for younger and middle-class men. For the guys that are broke, they may not be able to buy a Rolex but they can still have sex. 

Now, onto the ladies and it’s good news for us guys. White, bisexual women that stayed fit and didn’t deal with the usual physical afflictions associated with being out-of-shape had a higher number of sexual partners. 

I mean, if they are hitting the gym on a regular basis, women and men are more likely to have a better body and know it. And of course, regular exercise leads to a better sex life as well. 

Bad news for the married people out there with kids still living at home. We all have or know a divorced friend that shows up in the office every Monday with a story about a hookup on Match. The study also supports that it’s not just a made-up story. Men and women that are divorced never walked down the aisle and are single have slept with more people. 

Now, I am not condoning this but your friends that drink their asses off and were smokers at one time, also had more sexual partners. That being said, I will turn 50 one day and it’s encouraging to know that you can still have quite a bit a sex and with as many partners as you can—just keep using a rubber. 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

It happens to all guys. You are working your ass off to turn her on and then what was a hot moment turns ice cold as she just lays there or makes up an excuse to go home. 

Chances are, you did something in bed that was a big turn off. Here is a list of the biggest turn-offs for women so you can avoid doing them. 

—Spanking.   Unless she has asked for it and you KNOW it’s a turn one, refrain from the urge to give her a smack on the bottom. It doesn’t matter if you hit hard or just a light tap it’s still a turnoff. 

—Uncomfortable sex positions.  It’s always a good idea to try new things in the bedroom and different sexual positions are no exception as missionary position can get old. But if holding that position comes with a painful pulling sensation in her shoulder or neck, you can bet that is not the kind of pain she was looking for. Pay attention and consider which ones work best even if she’s into yoga. 

—Hickeys or biting.   This falls into the same category as spanking. If you are certain that she’s got a thing for vampires and enjoys the pressing of teeth into her neck, then try it. Otherwise, steer clear of it and also consider that it’s not sanitary either. Hickeys are a bit tacky at the office anyways. Just skip it. 

—Hair pulling.  A little pull to show dominance is great but severe pulling of hair hurts like hell and can shift the mood pretty fast in the bedroom. If you know what you are doing then test it out, otherwise…stroke instead of pull. 

—Too much dirty talk.  Most of us enjoy a little dirty talk and even some role-playing but there such thing as too much of a good thing when your fantasy gets nasty. 

—Sloppy oral that never ends.  Women really appreciate oral so, by all means, go for it but if you’ve been down there awhile come up for air and make sure all the work you’re doing is working. 

—Quick cleanup.  Getting up and grabbing a towel is one thing, but taking that window of time following intimacy to all of the sudden want to clean the sheets and clean off nightstands is a turnoff. Leave a tender moment alone. 

—Silent sex.  This obviously doesn’t apply to avoid alerting anyone to your romp. Throw in a moan in there or tell her how good it feels. Long periods of silence is just weird. 

—Weird mood music.  One of my female friends once described a creepy incident with a guy she had started dating. He decided to create a playlist to get her in the mood. Turns out, he was really into death metal. She high-tailed it out of there and never saw him again. 

In the end, it’s all about communication so just pay attention to your partner and how they react to what you are doing. Who knows…maybe she is into spanking wouldn’t hurt to ask.

New Study Shows Fewer Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rising STDs

New Study Shows Less Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rise of STDs

The amount of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are at an all-time high right now, according to data from the CDC or Centers for Disease Control. That means that “the clap” is also at an all-time high and that is nothing to applaud about. 

It should also come as no surprise that those numbers are higher because less-and-less guys are wrapping it up or using a condom. 

I was in college in the mid1990s and condoms and safe sex was everywhere. In fact, I remember going to clubs and there were baskets of condoms that someone was usually handing out or they were just sitting on the bar for the taking. 

Then again, the AIDS epidemic was very real back then and I was more fearful of contracting HIV then chlamydia but then again, I didn’t want to get that either. I lost my virginity using a condom on prom night in high school. 

It was years before I went hot-doggin’ without a condom. I was a senior in college before I got the nerve to go without one and I had been in a steady relationship for a few months. We also both got tested together and before we hopped into bed.

Now, the sensation is better. There is no denying that and it’s definitely more intense but the idea of dealing with getting tested, contracting herpes or experiencing the pain and burning while peeing then showing up in a clinic with a drippy Johnson is not worth it. 

I’ve managed to dodge the STD bullet thanks to condoms and for those continue to have casual sex with several partners here are the most common symptoms of STDs in guys:

Blisters on or around the penis.

Spots, bumps or lesions on the penis

Discharge (clear, white, or yellow)

Oozing from the tip of the penis (thick or thin)

Painful urination

Painful ejaculation

Itching on the tip of the penis

OR, you might not have any symptoms and you are spreading this shit to every girl you’re sleeping with which means you are also spreading it to other guys. One thing I can tell you, all of those symptoms will certainly mess up your sex life if you get them which is much worse than wearing a condom.

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys 

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys

Now that I am completely caught up on Peaky Blinders, I was looking for a new show to binge watch. Normally, my Netflix show tastes differ greatly from my girlfriend’s choices. She’s into shows like Glow, The Crown, and re-runs of Friends. 

It took some convincing but she talked me into watching the new Netflix show, Dating Around. It’s still a reality show about dating but a far cry from the early days of dating like Shipmates. Remeber.. it was hosted by Chris Hardwick..yes, the same Chris Hardwick that hosts The Walking Dead’s equally-successful talk show, Talking Dead.

There wasn’t much to learn from the show besides how far people will go to be total dicks or to get laid. But we’ve come a long way since 2001-2003. Well, kinda. Back to Netflix’s Dating Around. 

When she first hit the play button, I was like, “is this another version of The Bachelor?” But after it was on for about 5 minutes, I realized there was more going on that some douchebag trying to string along a bunch of girls looking for their fifteen minutes. 

In Dating Around there is no rose. Each show opens with one person on several different dates at the same restaurant hoping to meet someone that they like enough for a second date. That’s right, the pressure of love or “finding that special person” has been lifted which is just one of many reasons that I think guys will enjoy it as well. 

The first episode is probably the biggest education for single guys and from where I was sitting, he was a player but in a way that was so subtle that my girlfriend never even realized that he had dating skills that would get any loser laid. 

I didn’t share this with her but here are the dating tips and takeaways from the first episode that made me wish I knew when I wasn’t in a relationship: 

He chose a restaurant that served food that required chopsticks. Right off the bat, this guy knew which girls would be into trying something new or were sophisticated enough to know how to use chopsticks or if they slurped their food. Personally, that girl that chewed loudly would have had me running out of the door before the check arrived, but he could figure that out immediately just by his restaurant choice. 

Second, this guy was a hell of a listener. He asked open-ended questions and then commented on a few things they said. He shared just enough without having to defend himself or come off looking like a jerk. 

This is not to say that there aren’t some awkward moments but for the most part, this guy’s dating style was one we should all be aspiring to. The episode ends with him meeting up with one of the girls from his blind dates. 

As far as the subsequent episodes they are all pretty entertaining and the widower that looks like Jean-Luc Picard (Leonard episode 4) is a trip to watch and so are his dates. Just a heads up that Episode 3 (Lex) follows a gay guy on his blind dates so I decided to skip that one. 

If you are wondering how NOT to act, Episode 2 (Gurki) don’t do what Justin did on their date—dick move but I’ll let you make up your own mind about it. 

Let us know in the comments what you think of this show and if we missed anything. 

Guys With Better Personalities Get Laid More According to Study

Guys With Better Personalities Get Laid More According to StudyWant to get laid more? You may want to work on your personality, according to an Australian study. 

Late last year, Queensland University of Technology dug a little deeper into a sex study back in 2016. Researchers found that of the1,500 women and 3,000 men surveyed that the personality of the guys made quite an impact on sexual preferences. 

Guys that were more outgoing or extroverted with a more balanced emotional level had more sex. Turns out, it’s a turn on for a guy to be outgoing, aware of others and generally mentally stable. 

This should come as zero surprise to any guy out there that has dated. It’s the one that comes of as confident (even if he’s not), will listen to his date’s story about her co-worker that is out to get her and is not a psycho. It’s not a tall order just dating 101. 

Like it or not, truly confident or not, guys that exude confidence and are mentally stable get laid more. Women see these personality traits are safe which means they are more likely to go home with them.

The study did not specify if men felt the same way but I can tell you from personal experience that some of the hottest women I have dated were not mentally stable. 

Prep and Tips Before Bringing Your Date or Girlfriend to Thanksgiving Dinner

Prep and Tips on Bringing Your Date or Girlfriend to Thanksgiving Dinner

Moving in together or leaving a toothbrush and a change of clothes at your girlfriend’s place may have seemed like the biggest leap in your relationship but it pales in comparison to that first major holiday. 

Are you sweating already thinking of the innapropriate jokes that your Uncle Mark will tell while the mashed potatoes are passed? And let’s not forget that your mother might bring up marriage and grandchildren again. 

RELAX…..because we have compiled some survival tips to bringing a date or your girlfriend to the first Thanksgiving feast. 

Prep time.  Before you hop a flight, or jump in the car have some time scheduled over a meal before you arrive. It could be a casual lunch of brunch but just make sure it happens before you find your place at the table. This not only allows downtime before she mets your family but some bonding time as well. 

Introduce your family before she meets them.  Without going to the dark side or getting too negative let her know that Uncle Mark may tell jokes about boobs or that your mom is not ready to let go of her son or a time table for grandkids. No matter who will drop the first offensive sentence, let her know that you’ve got her back and remind yourself that she most likely has a family very similar to this. 

Bring a gift.   Encourage her to bring flowers or a nice bottle of wine. This is where your knowledge of your dysfunctional family pays off. You don’t want her to bring something too personal so some guidance on your mom’s favorite flower is a nice touch. Or at least know which flowers she’s allergic to and hates. If you don’t know, ask your dad. 

Avoid the temptation to prep your family.  Maybe it’s crossed your mind to call your mom and ask her to tone down the questions about marriage and grandkids. DON’T. This could backfire in your face for many reasons but mostly for the ones you don’t want to think of such as “I’ll show him.” 

Check your drinking.  DO enjoy a few, a FEW glasses of wine or beer but keep your drinking in check. You don’t want to slip up while slurring. If you feel the need to party, slip off afterwards in celebration or defeat. 

Lastly, try to include your girlfriend or date. For instance, find commonalities between your sister’s yoga classes and the fact that your girlfriend never misses an opportunity to fall into child’s pose. Or maybe where she grew up was close to where Aunt Gene lived for 10 years. 

Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving! 

Awful Fashion Trends that Women Wish Guys Would Stop Wearing

Awful Fashion Trends that Women Wish Guys Would Stop Wearing 

Sometime last week, I met my girlfriend for a drink after a hellish week at work. We opted to catch up at a local watering hole near the apartment that we share. I was sitting at a four-top table in the crowded bar—fighting off patrons that asked if I was using the empty chair across from me when I realized that the flat-assed women with her back to me was my girlfriend. 

This surprised me because she has a hot ass, and needs little make-up to playup her best features. Normally, she’s rocking jeans, a conservative blouse and some sort of heeled shoe. For some reason she chose to show up in the outfit she wore to work—baggy jeans that she later explained were called ‘boyfriend” jeans and short boots that made her feet look like she was still wearing the shoebox. 

I’m not a dumbass so I tiptoed around the question I really wanted to ask which was, “what the hell are you wearing?” Instead, I went with my go-to question when I want to avoid any drama—“is that a new outfit?” It’s innocent enough to sidestep the “do I look fat in this” trap and usually follows with an explanation about where, how much and why she chose the outfit. Seriously, that is the best tip I could give any guy out there. Yeah, you’re welcome. 

While she was going into a ridiculous amount of detail and my mind wandered between whether we were going to have sex later and what I should order, I dodged another drama bullet by asking her if there was anything I should stop wearing. As in, what fashion trends do women hate on guys. 

Her reply might not be scientific, it’s based on some serious feedback during her GNOs. Guys, you may not want to hear this but at least stop wearing the following fashion trends:

Cargo shorts.  I remember cargo anything a few years ago filling most of my closet. And on ocassion, I still reach for that one pair that is perfect for couch sitting and ball scratching. AND according to my girlfriend this is exactly where they should stay—at home for nut scratching. 

Deep v-neck shirts.  I keep a collection of undershirts some with a v-neck but apparently, anything with a deep-v that shows off your chest hair and pecs is a turnoff. Noted and makes sense. You don’t want competing cleavage with your date. 

Shitty flip flops.   I don’t get this one but no-brand crappy, on sale at the pharmacy, flip flops are for emergencies not for regular wear. If you have to wear flip flips opt for brand name, good quality flip flops. And it was also made clear to me that you should trim your toe nails before you dare show off your bare feet. Fair enough. 

Gun-show tank tops.   This look is only sexy at the gym and as seen as a general turn off. However, an exception is always made for The Rock. She then went on to explain that the sexiest way to show off your muscles is in a non-descript t-shirt that hugs your biceps. 

Last but not least, if you are going to wear a baseball cap wear it the way it was intended: with the bill hanging over your eyes not on the back of your head or flipped to the side. Well, unless you are playing baseball. 

What do you think of this list? Is it accurate and do you plan on burning your cargo shorts anytime soon?