Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Getting ghosted or the practice of ghosting is nothing new but it’s especially frustrating in an age of smartphones where you can reach someone instantly. Urban Dictionary defines ghosting as: “When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.”

Here are some signs that you are or you are about to be ghosted by your girlfriend or partner. 

—Your text responses are one-liners or the dreaded answer of just “k”. This response can typically dissolve into no very delayed responses to no response at all. 

—Her profiles dissapear from your social media. At first, you might be thinking that she took a break from social media or she might have just quit that specific social media platform. If you found them by googling their Instagram account then chances are she blocked you from finding them.

—She avoids talking about the future or future plans with you. All you are trying to do is get them to commit to meeting up after work for drinks but even that subject seems off limits. 

—Not only does she seem to avoid making casual plans to meet up but eye contact is avoided as well. 

—She’s crytic about plans that used to include you and we’re not talking a girls night out or some after hours co-worker crap she has to commit to that week. 

—Her body language gives the signal that she would rather be in a snake pit than across the table from you. That uneasy feeling might not be in your head if it’s become a regular occurence. 

—She’s a no-show and it becomes a regular occurrence with little regard and their excuse is how busy she has been. 

Some of these examples of ghosting might be legit so for the sake of sanity and closure you could simply ask for a simple answer. However, people that use ghosting clearly have issues with confrontation and are too emotionally immature or have a genuine fear of breaking up or bagging out of moving forward with a relatioship. 

It hurts but accept that it’s their loss and vent to your friends over a couple of beers rather than hounding her for an answer she will never give you. 

5 Ways to Boost Your Libido With Minimal Effort 

5 Ways to Boost Your Libido With Minimal Effort 

Having trouble keeping it up or just want to strengthen your current longevity? You don’t have to do anything drastic. With these simple tips, you will be “strong like bull” in no time. 

  1. Masturbate. See, told you it would be easy. Masturbation doesn’t make you blind but it’s great practice for sex. Just follow Frankie’s advice and relax without rushing to maximum longevity. 

2. Knock off the bad habits. If you are still smoking or drinking in excess you are not doing yourself any favors in the bedroom. Smoking constricts blood vessels which work against that erection. If you like red wine it can be helpful for circulation just take it easy and keep it to a minimum. 

3. Sunshine. Getting a little sun boosts the production of melatonin which could lead to an increase in your sex drive. Like alcohol consumption, keep your intake to a minimum. 

4. Take your vitamins. Vitamins and supplements are a great way to stay healthy with the added benefit of lasting longer in bed. Vitamin B3 gives you energy while Vitamin B6 help boost sperm production. Wanna know what other vitamins you should be taking? Here is a blog on 6 vitamins you should be taking to help increase your stamina.

5. De-stress. Don’t feel like you need to run out try a yoga class (although that wouldn’t hurt) but finding ways to destress is essential to any guy’s performance. Lifting weights or biking is a healthy approach and can only help. 

Before starting any new diet or exercise program always consult with your physician first. 

 

Give Your Sex Life a Boost With These Simple Everyday Habits 

Give Your Sex Life a Boost With These Simple Everyday Habits 

You may be surprised to know that spicing up your sex life doesn’t involve drawing warm bubble baths, lighting candles or dropping a trail of rose petals (although that wouldn’t hurt). In fact, simply incorporating these every day habits can lead to a better sex life with your partner. 

Here a list of everyday habits you should practice for a better sex life: 

Divide up the chores.   A recent survey points to a more robust sex life for couples that share in the chores such as cooking, dishwashing and grocery shopping together. It doesn’t sound very sexy but apparently sharing means caring and can be a big turn-on for women. 

Stop stressing.   Sex may relieve stress but de-stressing before having sex means better sex. Work, bills, health issues, family…the list is endless when it comes to triggers that raise our cortisol levels and block the libido we want. Whatever allows you brain dump and let go some of life’s stresses should happen before you get busy between the sheets. A light walk, an upper body workout, walking the dog or sipping on a glass of vino can be effective to unwinding. 

A better diet.   You are what you eat and this applies to your sex life as well. Certain foods can block the libido you want and need. Foods such as mint, coffee, diet drinks and sodas can screw with your screwing. Consider incorporating vitamins and supplements into your diet. Here are 11 foods that will boost your health and stamina. But before you consider changing up your diet, consult with your doctor first. 

Exercise.   Not only is regular exercise good for your body but it’s integral to your sex life as well. Consider working out at least 3 times a week for at least 30 minutes. In fact, try working out with your partner. Check out this list of exercises that every guy should do for better performance in bed. 

Consider your medications.  Anti-depressants high-blood pressure drugs have been linked to a lower libido. Consult with your physician about what medications you are taking any other options or alternative medications that work best for your body. 

Turn off the TV and turn up your sex life.  Multiple studies have shown that a TV in your bedroom can kill the mood. Television can be a big distraction from making love and that’s the last thing you want when you are trying to have a healthy sex life. If you must keep one in your bedroom, consider limiting what hours it is on. 

Lastly, if you think it’s more an emotional or commitment issue, consider seeking couples counseling. 

What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to Survey

What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to SurveyMy Uncle Jeff had a copy of a book in his living room title, “A Man’s Guide to Understanding Women.” When you flipped through the 200 pages, you realized they were blank. 

It was a good laugh and still is today but I remember being slightly bummed out when I initially tried reading it as a teen. 

The realization that I would never get laid before I started college stressed me out more than the acne I was battling. Of course, there is always some friend in your life that thinks he has it figured out and tries feeding you the kind of advice you might get from Mike Damone from the cult classic, Fast Times at Ridgemont High. 

At least Uncle Jeff’s book was accurate. Well, turns out…what women consider good qualities in men is a bit of a surprise, according to recent surveys conducted by BestLifeOnline.com and New Jersey’s Opinion Research Corporation. Spoiler alert: it’s not “manliness” or taking control. 

The survey data is solid and the surveyors went through the trouble to ask over 1,000 women with the very drastic age range of 21-54 years old. 

As much as you need to work on those six-pack abs and not look like a general slob, women still prefer personality over looks. 

In fact, 66 percent of surveyed women feel that moral integrity is a big turn on along with kindness (at 67%). Basically, you need to have a moral compass and not be a shit bag. Just a mere 13 percent claimed to care about muscles (not that one!). 

Guys that can be faithful, have a sense of humor, be a good listener and have decent fashion sense also snagged top spots. I have to wonder…are they looking for a straight guy? 

Still, it’s good to know that some of the pressure is off and we can still work at some of these traits.

And the good news is that women still rank being good in bed as a very desired trait as well. Can’t wait to share these findings with Uncle Jeff. 

The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

In this blog, we talk quite a bit about erections, sex, foods that help erections and pretty much anything related to guys and sex. What we haven’t touched on are other methods to keep an erection outside of what to eat or what not to eat to keep your sexual stamina flowing. 

Turns out, sex toys are not only for women and can do quite a bit for guys and how long they last in bed. I recently reached out to a gal that held a sex toy party at my house for my girlfriend’s book club. I was told to make myself scarce as nervous giggles gave way to outright laughter while a living room full of woman dug into the dip and discussed the best vibrators to climax. Believe me, I would have liked to have stayed. 

What I did do was snag a business card and hit her up for some advice. She asked that I not use her name because the sex toy party franchise for which she worked would not give her permission. However, what she did allow me to share is sexual stamina gold. 

Here are the best sex toys for guys to last longer in bed:

Cock/Penis Rings 

This is essentially the go-to for guys when trying to reach and keep their climax going. Cock rings help bring more blood flow to the penis leading to more stamina. The other benefit of cock rings is that they are relatively inexpensive and very effective. What matters the most is that YOU READ the directions and follow them. Thankfully, it’s not as complicated as putting together IKEA furniture and quite harmless. 

Penis Pumps

I know what you are picturing or at least hearing in your head, Austin Powers. But penis pumps should be your bag, baby, because the right one does work. Again, like the cock ring, it’s all about the blood flow to your penis and more importantly, increasing the blood flow. I was warned that it’s all about the frequency or consistency of using your penis pump. The more you use it on a regular basis the better and longer your erections. 

Lubricants and Salves

Lubes work and I have been personally using them along with ED natural supplements for a good five years. I use an erection stimulating cream that does exactly what its name implies. But there is more than one type. The other helps stave off sensation without killing it entirely which keeps you from having to think about Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day or following Frankie’s advice and Relax. I would rather feel all the sensation so the lube is a better avenue for me. 

Masturbation Sleeves

The best part about this sexual stamina aid is that practice makes perfect. Simply use it while treating your body as your personal amusement park. Using a masturbation sleeve not only eliminates the need to use your left hand as a “stranger” but it aids in learning to have more control over your orgasms and that’s the whole point to lasting longer.

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Not one but three recently-published studies found that men still want women to keep a clean house but the same is not expected of men. 

After (admittedly) only skimming all three studies, I wanted to share my perspective as a guy that keeps a tidy house and why I still hold women to the same standard and can’t understand why women don’t do the same to men.

Let’s start by going way back to the mid-90s. At the time I was still in college and busting my ass waiting tables at night. One evening after finishing my shift I picked up a girl that had what I call, “catnip.” She wasn’t pretty but she had a sexy vibe about her, a great figure and was super uninhibiated—all turn-ons for guys. 

One drink led to another and I took her back to my place. I hadn’t planned on getting laid that night so my apartment was not picked-up but not filthy either. I might have had some dishes in the sink and maybe a pair of dirty boxers on the floor but nothing had really accumulated. 

However, the piece of shit car that I drove her home that night was so clean you could eat off the floor. I remember her asking for a drink and asking to slip off to use the bathroom. As I fumbled through my nightstand trying to locate a condom, she emerged from the bathroom wearing nothing but a smile. It was a night of some of the best sex I have ever had. 

This, of course, led to another hook-up night. This time, she picked me up in her ride—a glorified sports car for the working class, the Geo Storm. 

I opened the door only to be hit with the pungent odor of what smelled like cat piss. But if that wasn’t enough to shock me, the floor of the car could not be seen because it was covered in compressed piles of old convenience-store cups, fast-food chain wrappers, and petrified french fries. The cloth seats also had so many stains that it was impossible to figure out the actual color. Assuming those stains might contain urine, I asked for a napkin to sit on. She obliged and fished out a stack of napkins from her glove compartment which appeared to have deep scratches from a rabid animal. 

The backseat was even worse. When I asked her how long she had had the car, she said it was less than a year old. I was already turned off before we even got to her apartment. My mind raced to wonder how nasty her place would be if her car looked like this. My suspicions and fears were confirmed.  In a metal cage in the corner, her wildlife aggressively tried to escape its confines to either attack me or more likely, take another piss. 

Turns out, she had a pet raccoon and the smell in her place matched the smell in her car.  Like her car, every surface was covered in discarded take-out boxes which made sense since she ran out of clean dishes and cookware which sat in the sink with the memory of old meals still stuck to its insides. 

This was not my proudest moment but while she readied herself in the bathroom, I bolted out of there, tracked down a payphone and called a buddy for a ride. 

I’m sure my actions hurt her enough to share the story with her friends over coffee or a cocktail but I was seriously concerned that I was going to catch an STD (thankfully, we had used a condom earlier). This is an extreme case but from that day forward—a made it a point to never date a woman that keeps a filthy car and to make sure that I never let my place get that disgusting either. I mean, if that was enough to turn me off to amazing sex, then I wondered how women would feel about that dirty pair of boxers or the fact that I hadn’t given two craps about simply rinsing food from my dishes.

To this day, I am a bit of a neat freak and I do most of the cleaning. My girlfriend appreciates this immensely and it makes our relationship much better.

Women should be holding men to a higher standard of cleanliness than they do and men should not have to feel like dickheads for not hooking up with a girl that doesn’t have enough sense to run a dishwasher or keep her floors clean enough that you can see the original color. 

Women (and this is just my opinion) typically have a harder time living with dirty boxers on the floor or whiskers clinging to toothpaste droppings in the sink, but you may have to start leaving it there for us guys to clean. Believe me, we will eventually cave because no one wants to look at that crap long term. 

As for guys, it’s time we all held ourselves to the same standard of cleanliness that is expected of our girlfriends and wives because no one wants to live like it’s Joe’s Apartment. 

In fact, another study published last year found that guys that bother to help out with household chores and grocery shopping had better sex and that’s a study we can all get behind.

Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed, sex and stoner films could have been the topic of my college thesis so a recent study on the topic of sex and orgasms in women makes total sense. 

The recent study released by The International Society for Sexual Medicine asked around 400 women over a year’s time about their sex lives. Turns out, the women (68.5%) that used marijuana before having intercourse reported having a more deleterious time when compared to those that didn’t. 

The benefits of enjoying grass before sex also extended to a stronger sex drive overall for a  whopping 60.6% of women. Of the 52.8% of women that enjoy marijuana with their sex reported enjoying more gratifying orgasms overall. 

For women that experience pain during sex (and not in a good way) the study’s results pointed to a drop in discomfort for women that consume marijuana on a regular basis.

Additionally, of those women that frequently use cannabis claimed to have enjoyed their orgasms twice as much as those that infrequently imbibe the plant. 

If you’ve ever smoked weed or enjoyed an edible you have no doubt mellowed out considerably and for some (myself included) dropped your inhibitions and got a little horny.

The researches of this study offered a more scientific reason for why women enjoyed sex and sexual satisfaction much more citing the connection between cannabinoid receptors hormonal release. 

The study’s results also pointed to an increase of neurotransmitter dopamine related to marijuana use which greatly impacts sexual function. 

However, the study researchers also pointed out that the plethora of cannabinoids out there so not all lead to the best sex she might have ever had or overall better sex life. Which basically means that there are other cannabinoids could find your girl sandwiches between a bag of chips and a tub of peanut butter rather than the sheets. 

Thankfully, I live in Colorado and can put this study to the test on an ongoing basis provided my girlfriend is a willing participant but I don’t think that will take too much coaxing for her or most women. 

 

 

Recent Study Focuses on the Sex Lives of Men and Women Over 50

Recent Study Shows Focuses on Sex and Men and Women Over 50

Most of the sex surveys involving lots of sexual partners leave out those over 50 years-old. Which is why this recent survey from British researchers was an interesting take and long overdue.

The research dug deep into the lives of over 7,000 men and women over 50 and the results are somewhat surprising. Let’s start with the more obvious findings that are also stereotypically on point. 

Guys tend to have more sexual partners during their lifetime than women. And guys with more money or higher on the economic ladder and especially over 50, tend to have even more partners. But there was also good news for the broke guys out there. The study also pointed to the lower 20% of economic status with a higher amount of sexual partners. 

Sex experts attribute the amount of sex and partners more affluent older men have to a life with less of the stress that life brings for younger and middle-class men. For the guys that are broke, they may not be able to buy a Rolex but they can still have sex. 

Now, onto the ladies and it’s good news for us guys. White, bisexual women that stayed fit and didn’t deal with the usual physical afflictions associated with being out-of-shape had a higher number of sexual partners. 

I mean, if they are hitting the gym on a regular basis, women and men are more likely to have a better body and know it. And of course, regular exercise leads to a better sex life as well. 

Bad news for the married people out there with kids still living at home. We all have or know a divorced friend that shows up in the office every Monday with a story about a hookup on Match. The study also supports that it’s not just a made-up story. Men and women that are divorced never walked down the aisle and are single have slept with more people. 

Now, I am not condoning this but your friends that drink their asses off and were smokers at one time, also had more sexual partners. That being said, I will turn 50 one day and it’s encouraging to know that you can still have quite a bit a sex and with as many partners as you can—just keep using a rubber. 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

It happens to all guys. You are working your ass off to turn her on and then what was a hot moment turns ice cold as she just lays there or makes up an excuse to go home. 

Chances are, you did something in bed that was a big turn off. Here is a list of the biggest turn-offs for women so you can avoid doing them. 

—Spanking.   Unless she has asked for it and you KNOW it’s a turn one, refrain from the urge to give her a smack on the bottom. It doesn’t matter if you hit hard or just a light tap it’s still a turnoff. 

—Uncomfortable sex positions.  It’s always a good idea to try new things in the bedroom and different sexual positions are no exception as missionary position can get old. But if holding that position comes with a painful pulling sensation in her shoulder or neck, you can bet that is not the kind of pain she was looking for. Pay attention and consider which ones work best even if she’s into yoga. 

—Hickeys or biting.   This falls into the same category as spanking. If you are certain that she’s got a thing for vampires and enjoys the pressing of teeth into her neck, then try it. Otherwise, steer clear of it and also consider that it’s not sanitary either. Hickeys are a bit tacky at the office anyways. Just skip it. 

—Hair pulling.  A little pull to show dominance is great but severe pulling of hair hurts like hell and can shift the mood pretty fast in the bedroom. If you know what you are doing then test it out, otherwise…stroke instead of pull. 

—Too much dirty talk.  Most of us enjoy a little dirty talk and even some role-playing but there such thing as too much of a good thing when your fantasy gets nasty. 

—Sloppy oral that never ends.  Women really appreciate oral so, by all means, go for it but if you’ve been down there awhile come up for air and make sure all the work you’re doing is working. 

—Quick cleanup.  Getting up and grabbing a towel is one thing, but taking that window of time following intimacy to all of the sudden want to clean the sheets and clean off nightstands is a turnoff. Leave a tender moment alone. 

—Silent sex.  This obviously doesn’t apply to avoid alerting anyone to your romp. Throw in a moan in there or tell her how good it feels. Long periods of silence is just weird. 

—Weird mood music.  One of my female friends once described a creepy incident with a guy she had started dating. He decided to create a playlist to get her in the mood. Turns out, he was really into death metal. She high-tailed it out of there and never saw him again. 

In the end, it’s all about communication so just pay attention to your partner and how they react to what you are doing. Who knows…maybe she is into spanking wouldn’t hurt to ask.

New Study Shows Fewer Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rising STDs

New Study Shows Less Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rise of STDs

The amount of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are at an all-time high right now, according to data from the CDC or Centers for Disease Control. That means that “the clap” is also at an all-time high and that is nothing to applaud about. 

It should also come as no surprise that those numbers are higher because less-and-less guys are wrapping it up or using a condom. 

I was in college in the mid1990s and condoms and safe sex was everywhere. In fact, I remember going to clubs and there were baskets of condoms that someone was usually handing out or they were just sitting on the bar for the taking. 

Then again, the AIDS epidemic was very real back then and I was more fearful of contracting HIV then chlamydia but then again, I didn’t want to get that either. I lost my virginity using a condom on prom night in high school. 

It was years before I went hot-doggin’ without a condom. I was a senior in college before I got the nerve to go without one and I had been in a steady relationship for a few months. We also both got tested together and before we hopped into bed.

Now, the sensation is better. There is no denying that and it’s definitely more intense but the idea of dealing with getting tested, contracting herpes or experiencing the pain and burning while peeing then showing up in a clinic with a drippy Johnson is not worth it. 

I’ve managed to dodge the STD bullet thanks to condoms and for those continue to have casual sex with several partners here are the most common symptoms of STDs in guys:

Blisters on or around the penis.

Spots, bumps or lesions on the penis

Discharge (clear, white, or yellow)

Oozing from the tip of the penis (thick or thin)

Painful urination

Painful ejaculation

Itching on the tip of the penis

OR, you might not have any symptoms and you are spreading this shit to every girl you’re sleeping with which means you are also spreading it to other guys. One thing I can tell you, all of those symptoms will certainly mess up your sex life if you get them which is much worse than wearing a condom.