Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Getting ghosted or the practice of ghosting is nothing new but it’s especially frustrating in an age of smartphones where you can reach someone instantly. Urban Dictionary defines ghosting as: “When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.”

Here are some signs that you are or you are about to be ghosted by your girlfriend or partner. 

—Your text responses are one-liners or the dreaded answer of just “k”. This response can typically dissolve into no very delayed responses to no response at all. 

—Her profiles dissapear from your social media. At first, you might be thinking that she took a break from social media or she might have just quit that specific social media platform. If you found them by googling their Instagram account then chances are she blocked you from finding them.

—She avoids talking about the future or future plans with you. All you are trying to do is get them to commit to meeting up after work for drinks but even that subject seems off limits. 

—Not only does she seem to avoid making casual plans to meet up but eye contact is avoided as well. 

—She’s crytic about plans that used to include you and we’re not talking a girls night out or some after hours co-worker crap she has to commit to that week. 

—Her body language gives the signal that she would rather be in a snake pit than across the table from you. That uneasy feeling might not be in your head if it’s become a regular occurence. 

—She’s a no-show and it becomes a regular occurrence with little regard and their excuse is how busy she has been. 

Some of these examples of ghosting might be legit so for the sake of sanity and closure you could simply ask for a simple answer. However, people that use ghosting clearly have issues with confrontation and are too emotionally immature or have a genuine fear of breaking up or bagging out of moving forward with a relatioship. 

It hurts but accept that it’s their loss and vent to your friends over a couple of beers rather than hounding her for an answer she will never give you. 

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Not one but three recently-published studies found that men still want women to keep a clean house but the same is not expected of men. 

After (admittedly) only skimming all three studies, I wanted to share my perspective as a guy that keeps a tidy house and why I still hold women to the same standard and can’t understand why women don’t do the same to men.

Let’s start by going way back to the mid-90s. At the time I was still in college and busting my ass waiting tables at night. One evening after finishing my shift I picked up a girl that had what I call, “catnip.” She wasn’t pretty but she had a sexy vibe about her, a great figure and was super uninhibiated—all turn-ons for guys. 

One drink led to another and I took her back to my place. I hadn’t planned on getting laid that night so my apartment was not picked-up but not filthy either. I might have had some dishes in the sink and maybe a pair of dirty boxers on the floor but nothing had really accumulated. 

However, the piece of shit car that I drove her home that night was so clean you could eat off the floor. I remember her asking for a drink and asking to slip off to use the bathroom. As I fumbled through my nightstand trying to locate a condom, she emerged from the bathroom wearing nothing but a smile. It was a night of some of the best sex I have ever had. 

This, of course, led to another hook-up night. This time, she picked me up in her ride—a glorified sports car for the working class, the Geo Storm. 

I opened the door only to be hit with the pungent odor of what smelled like cat piss. But if that wasn’t enough to shock me, the floor of the car could not be seen because it was covered in compressed piles of old convenience-store cups, fast-food chain wrappers, and petrified french fries. The cloth seats also had so many stains that it was impossible to figure out the actual color. Assuming those stains might contain urine, I asked for a napkin to sit on. She obliged and fished out a stack of napkins from her glove compartment which appeared to have deep scratches from a rabid animal. 

The backseat was even worse. When I asked her how long she had had the car, she said it was less than a year old. I was already turned off before we even got to her apartment. My mind raced to wonder how nasty her place would be if her car looked like this. My suspicions and fears were confirmed.  In a metal cage in the corner, her wildlife aggressively tried to escape its confines to either attack me or more likely, take another piss. 

Turns out, she had a pet raccoon and the smell in her place matched the smell in her car.  Like her car, every surface was covered in discarded take-out boxes which made sense since she ran out of clean dishes and cookware which sat in the sink with the memory of old meals still stuck to its insides. 

This was not my proudest moment but while she readied herself in the bathroom, I bolted out of there, tracked down a payphone and called a buddy for a ride. 

I’m sure my actions hurt her enough to share the story with her friends over coffee or a cocktail but I was seriously concerned that I was going to catch an STD (thankfully, we had used a condom earlier). This is an extreme case but from that day forward—a made it a point to never date a woman that keeps a filthy car and to make sure that I never let my place get that disgusting either. I mean, if that was enough to turn me off to amazing sex, then I wondered how women would feel about that dirty pair of boxers or the fact that I hadn’t given two craps about simply rinsing food from my dishes.

To this day, I am a bit of a neat freak and I do most of the cleaning. My girlfriend appreciates this immensely and it makes our relationship much better.

Women should be holding men to a higher standard of cleanliness than they do and men should not have to feel like dickheads for not hooking up with a girl that doesn’t have enough sense to run a dishwasher or keep her floors clean enough that you can see the original color. 

Women (and this is just my opinion) typically have a harder time living with dirty boxers on the floor or whiskers clinging to toothpaste droppings in the sink, but you may have to start leaving it there for us guys to clean. Believe me, we will eventually cave because no one wants to look at that crap long term. 

As for guys, it’s time we all held ourselves to the same standard of cleanliness that is expected of our girlfriends and wives because no one wants to live like it’s Joe’s Apartment. 

In fact, another study published last year found that guys that bother to help out with household chores and grocery shopping had better sex and that’s a study we can all get behind.

Prep and Tips Before Bringing Your Date or Girlfriend to Thanksgiving Dinner

Prep and Tips on Bringing Your Date or Girlfriend to Thanksgiving Dinner

Moving in together or leaving a toothbrush and a change of clothes at your girlfriend’s place may have seemed like the biggest leap in your relationship but it pales in comparison to that first major holiday. 

Are you sweating already thinking of the innapropriate jokes that your Uncle Mark will tell while the mashed potatoes are passed? And let’s not forget that your mother might bring up marriage and grandchildren again. 

RELAX…..because we have compiled some survival tips to bringing a date or your girlfriend to the first Thanksgiving feast. 

Prep time.  Before you hop a flight, or jump in the car have some time scheduled over a meal before you arrive. It could be a casual lunch of brunch but just make sure it happens before you find your place at the table. This not only allows downtime before she mets your family but some bonding time as well. 

Introduce your family before she meets them.  Without going to the dark side or getting too negative let her know that Uncle Mark may tell jokes about boobs or that your mom is not ready to let go of her son or a time table for grandkids. No matter who will drop the first offensive sentence, let her know that you’ve got her back and remind yourself that she most likely has a family very similar to this. 

Bring a gift.   Encourage her to bring flowers or a nice bottle of wine. This is where your knowledge of your dysfunctional family pays off. You don’t want her to bring something too personal so some guidance on your mom’s favorite flower is a nice touch. Or at least know which flowers she’s allergic to and hates. If you don’t know, ask your dad. 

Avoid the temptation to prep your family.  Maybe it’s crossed your mind to call your mom and ask her to tone down the questions about marriage and grandkids. DON’T. This could backfire in your face for many reasons but mostly for the ones you don’t want to think of such as “I’ll show him.” 

Check your drinking.  DO enjoy a few, a FEW glasses of wine or beer but keep your drinking in check. You don’t want to slip up while slurring. If you feel the need to party, slip off afterwards in celebration or defeat. 

Lastly, try to include your girlfriend or date. For instance, find commonalities between your sister’s yoga classes and the fact that your girlfriend never misses an opportunity to fall into child’s pose. Or maybe where she grew up was close to where Aunt Gene lived for 10 years. 

Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving! 

Tinder Releases the Most Desirable Jobs that Make Female Users Swipe Right 

Tinder Releases the Most Desirable Jobs that Make Users Swipe Right 

The right-swipe doesn’t lie on the popular dating app, Tinder. In case you have been under a rock or haven’t been single in the last 10 years, swiping right is a good thing. 

If you thought becoming a doctor would get you more dates or laid, think again. Times they are changin’ and so are the careers that women find the most attractive in guys. 

Tinder recently released its list of the jobs of U.S. user profiles that get the most right swipes in 2018. I hope you’re sitting down because the number one job that got the most right-swipes was…drumroll….an INTERIOR DESIGNER. Yes, you read that right. Don’t despair the usual careers made the list. And there is always this handy list of the best films for a Netflix and Chill night. 

Here is a breakdown of the list ranked in order of popularity (right swipes). 

GUYS:

  1. Interior Designer
  2. Pilot
  3. Physician’s Assistant
  4. Lawyer
  5. PR / Communications
  6. Producer
  7. Visual Designer
  8. Model
  9. College / Graduate Student
  10. Engineer
  11. Veterinarian
  12. Teacher
  13. Chiropractor
  14. Firefighter / Paramedic
  15. Founder / Entrepreneur

Sex on the First Date Is Socially Acceptable According to OkCupid Survey

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Truth be told, as a red-blooded male, I am always down to have sex on the first date even if I find my date annoying and unattractive. I know, I know…I realize it makes me a bit of a dog but the final decision is always left up to her and my answer is always, yes. 

Back in the day, having sex on the first date (mostly for girls) was a social faux pas. But times they are a changin’ according to a recent survey released by the dating site, OkCupid. 

Here is one glaring takeaway from this survey that every guy should know that will make you feel a little better about that first date. In fact, she is more likely to be DTF than you think. 

A whopping 46% of OkCupid users said they would have sex on the first date. That’s nearly 50% of female and male respondents. 

The numbers don’t lie and point to a different overall attitude about how our society views casual sex. In fact, if you have no plans on seeing that person again or at least not planning solid plans to do so—it’s casual sex. Well, at least in the moment. 

The numbers point to a more relaxed and honest view to sex rather then intercourse becoming the-BE-ALL-END-ALL. It might have taken at least 50 years, but perhaps, we are finally past the unfair stigma attached to sex and dating. 

This is not to say that sex doesn’t matter. I remember hooking up on a first date and entering into a long-term relationship with a girl when we were both in our early twenties. And maybe that is what has evolved. Instead of treating sex like it’s all that matters, it becomes just part of the dating world and before a commitment is yet to be made. 

Perhaps, the biggest reason for this shift in how we weigh the cost of sexual intercourse while dating is best measured and changed by the level of honesty and dare I say it, the feminist movement that woman can enjoy sex without commitments as well—which is fine with me.

What do you think of casual sex being embraced in today’s dating world. Is it for real or just complete bullshit?

Let’s Talk About Texts: Bad Grammar is a Big Sexual Turn Off 

Let’s Talk About Texts: Bad Grammar is a Big Sexual Turn O

Forgot the typical turn offs on a date such as a hunk of spinach hanging from your teeth, stinky breath or being a bad kisser. 

Turns out, using bad grammar even in a text message or social media post matters more than how bad in bed you are, according to a recent survey released by the Plenty of Fish.

The popular dating website asked over 2,000 singles what would make them swipe left and nearly 60 percent cited crappy grammar and common spelling mistakes. 

The survey’s findings are also in-line with a 2015 survey result released in 2015 by match.com. 

Other startling takeaways from the survey pointed to a lack of reply to a text that had been read as a deal breaker over the three-day rule which is no longer a rule in the dating world. 

If you are single and responding to a text use the winky face emoji, kissing face or heart eyes and skip using the least favorite emoji—the eggplant.

In addition to good grammar and the right emoji, do not advertise your political views in your dating profile. Close to 60% of singles surveyed claimed they wouldn’t even consider dating someone who’s political views differ from their own. 

No matter which way you lean politically, (and don’t kill the messenger) this is especially a turn off if you support or voted for Donald Trump, according to the survey results. 

Basically, if you want to hook-up more, skip the obnoxious bathroom mirror selfies, political talk, brush up on your grammar skills AND no eggplant emojis.

The Worst Pick-Up Lines and What Women REALLY Think of Them

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In spite of modern advances to hookup, find a date or even true love through the use of apps such as tinder, match and eharmony bad pick-up lines are still used and still stink like a cheap aftershave.

I’ve scoured the internet and my own bleak single life to compile a list of some of the worst pick-up lines that are still used today and what women still think of them. For the record, you are trying to break the ice not shatter it.

“Can I buy you a drink?”

O.k, this isn’t the worst idea but it shouldn’t be a “go-to” line. Instead, hold off on asking initially. No woman wants to be bought before you even ask her name. If things are going well ask, “could I get you another drink?”

“I saw you looking at me…”

Either you are stating the obvious or maybe she just had no other choice than to look at the only lonely dude in the bar. Either way, drop that line and find a more natural way to engage in conversation.

“Did it hurt when you fell?”

Let me guess….the girl is supposed to act confused and inquire further about your question. Yes, it hurt like hell to fall into your lame-ass line. Again, too soon to determine if I am an angel. Let’s no be presumptuous.

“Girl, you’ve got some fine-ass legs. I’d like to take those legs out to a steak dinner.”

Thanks for appreciating my legs but I’m not going to spend an evening with you over a steak dinner if my brain are not invited as well. This crappy line needs to die a quick death.

“So where exactly do you live?”

WHOA! Slow your roll. I’m not about to offer up my address to someone I just met and I don’t care if you bought me a drink.

“Your place or mine?”

That would be neither. If you’re that horny, you might need to phone a professional that will put up with that line because they are working girls.

“Has anyone ever told you that you look like. . .”

Just remember, I may not find my doppelgänger as attractive as you do so this might just lead to an unintended insult. For instance, I was once told that I looked like Teri Garr from Mr. Mom. This might have been sexy up until he told me that his mom kinda looked like her as well. Ewwww. Paging Dr. Fraud.

“9”

Thanks for not giving me a “10.” We can’t all be Bo Derek, but don’t start off on the wrong foot.

“Was your dad a robber? Because he stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.”

No, hell no. Just, no. 

“Your eyes are like limpid pools of primordial ooze, and I am the protozoa that wish to swim in their depths.”

Yeah, but what if she’s got brown eyes or you get the color wrong. Don’t start behind, start ahead.

“Nice legs; what time do they open?”

Opening hours are only for guys that don’t use that douche pick-up line. But thanks for playing.