Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

by Angela Cavallari Walker

Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Getting ghosted or the practice of ghosting is nothing new but it’s especially frustrating in an age of smartphones where you can reach someone instantly. Urban Dictionary defines ghosting as: “When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.”

Here are some signs that you are or you are about to be ghosted by your girlfriend or partner. 

—Your text responses are one-liners or the dreaded answer of just “k”. This response can typically dissolve into no very delayed responses to no response at all. 

—Her profiles dissapear from your social media. At first, you might be thinking that she took a break from social media or she might have just quit that specific social media platform. If you found them by googling their Instagram account then chances are she blocked you from finding them.

—She avoids talking about the future or future plans with you. All you are trying to do is get them to commit to meeting up after work for drinks but even that subject seems off limits. 

—Not only does she seem to avoid making casual plans to meet up but eye contact is avoided as well. 

—She’s crytic about plans that used to include you and we’re not talking a girls night out or some after hours co-worker crap she has to commit to that week. 

—Her body language gives the signal that she would rather be in a snake pit than across the table from you. That uneasy feeling might not be in your head if it’s become a regular occurence. 

—She’s a no-show and it becomes a regular occurrence with little regard and their excuse is how busy she has been. 

Some of these examples of ghosting might be legit so for the sake of sanity and closure you could simply ask for a simple answer. However, people that use ghosting clearly have issues with confrontation and are too emotionally immature or have a genuine fear of breaking up or bagging out of moving forward with a relatioship. 

It hurts but accept that it’s their loss and vent to your friends over a couple of beers rather than hounding her for an answer she will never give you. 

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys 

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys

Now that I am completely caught up on Peaky Blinders, I was looking for a new show to binge watch. Normally, my Netflix show tastes differ greatly from my girlfriend’s choices. She’s into shows like Glow, The Crown, and re-runs of Friends. 

It took some convincing but she talked me into watching the new Netflix show, Dating Around. It’s still a reality show about dating but a far cry from the early days of dating like Shipmates. Remeber.. it was hosted by Chris Hardwick..yes, the same Chris Hardwick that hosts The Walking Dead’s equally-successful talk show, Talking Dead.

There wasn’t much to learn from the show besides how far people will go to be total dicks or to get laid. But we’ve come a long way since 2001-2003. Well, kinda. Back to Netflix’s Dating Around. 

When she first hit the play button, I was like, “is this another version of The Bachelor?” But after it was on for about 5 minutes, I realized there was more going on that some douchebag trying to string along a bunch of girls looking for their fifteen minutes. 

In Dating Around there is no rose. Each show opens with one person on several different dates at the same restaurant hoping to meet someone that they like enough for a second date. That’s right, the pressure of love or “finding that special person” has been lifted which is just one of many reasons that I think guys will enjoy it as well. 

The first episode is probably the biggest education for single guys and from where I was sitting, he was a player but in a way that was so subtle that my girlfriend never even realized that he had dating skills that would get any loser laid. 

I didn’t share this with her but here are the dating tips and takeaways from the first episode that made me wish I knew when I wasn’t in a relationship: 

He chose a restaurant that served food that required chopsticks. Right off the bat, this guy knew which girls would be into trying something new or were sophisticated enough to know how to use chopsticks or if they slurped their food. Personally, that girl that chewed loudly would have had me running out of the door before the check arrived, but he could figure that out immediately just by his restaurant choice. 

Second, this guy was a hell of a listener. He asked open-ended questions and then commented on a few things they said. He shared just enough without having to defend himself or come off looking like a jerk. 

This is not to say that there aren’t some awkward moments but for the most part, this guy’s dating style was one we should all be aspiring to. The episode ends with him meeting up with one of the girls from his blind dates. 

As far as the subsequent episodes they are all pretty entertaining and the widower that looks like Jean-Luc Picard (Leonard episode 4) is a trip to watch and so are his dates. Just a heads up that Episode 3 (Lex) follows a gay guy on his blind dates so I decided to skip that one. 

If you are wondering how NOT to act, Episode 2 (Gurki) don’t do what Justin did on their date—dick move but I’ll let you make up your own mind about it. 

Let us know in the comments what you think of this show and if we missed anything.