New Study Shows Fewer Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rising STDs

New Study Shows Less Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rise of STDs

The amount of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are at an all-time high right now, according to data from the CDC or Centers for Disease Control. That means that “the clap” is also at an all-time high and that is nothing to applaud about. 

It should also come as no surprise that those numbers are higher because less-and-less guys are wrapping it up or using a condom. 

I was in college in the mid1990s and condoms and safe sex was everywhere. In fact, I remember going to clubs and there were baskets of condoms that someone was usually handing out or they were just sitting on the bar for the taking. 

Then again, the AIDS epidemic was very real back then and I was more fearful of contracting HIV then chlamydia but then again, I didn’t want to get that either. I lost my virginity using a condom on prom night in high school. 

It was years before I went hot-doggin’ without a condom. I was a senior in college before I got the nerve to go without one and I had been in a steady relationship for a few months. We also both got tested together and before we hopped into bed.

Now, the sensation is better. There is no denying that and it’s definitely more intense but the idea of dealing with getting tested, contracting herpes or experiencing the pain and burning while peeing then showing up in a clinic with a drippy Johnson is not worth it. 

I’ve managed to dodge the STD bullet thanks to condoms and for those continue to have casual sex with several partners here are the most common symptoms of STDs in guys:

Blisters on or around the penis.

Spots, bumps or lesions on the penis

Discharge (clear, white, or yellow)

Oozing from the tip of the penis (thick or thin)

Painful urination

Painful ejaculation

Itching on the tip of the penis

OR, you might not have any symptoms and you are spreading this shit to every girl you’re sleeping with which means you are also spreading it to other guys. One thing I can tell you, all of those symptoms will certainly mess up your sex life if you get them which is much worse than wearing a condom.

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys 

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys

Now that I am completely caught up on Peaky Blinders, I was looking for a new show to binge watch. Normally, my Netflix show tastes differ greatly from my girlfriend’s choices. She’s into shows like Glow, The Crown, and re-runs of Friends. 

It took some convincing but she talked me into watching the new Netflix show, Dating Around. It’s still a reality show about dating but a far cry from the early days of dating like Shipmates. Remeber.. it was hosted by Chris Hardwick..yes, the same Chris Hardwick that hosts The Walking Dead’s equally-successful talk show, Talking Dead.

There wasn’t much to learn from the show besides how far people will go to be total dicks or to get laid. But we’ve come a long way since 2001-2003. Well, kinda. Back to Netflix’s Dating Around. 

When she first hit the play button, I was like, “is this another version of The Bachelor?” But after it was on for about 5 minutes, I realized there was more going on that some douchebag trying to string along a bunch of girls looking for their fifteen minutes. 

In Dating Around there is no rose. Each show opens with one person on several different dates at the same restaurant hoping to meet someone that they like enough for a second date. That’s right, the pressure of love or “finding that special person” has been lifted which is just one of many reasons that I think guys will enjoy it as well. 

The first episode is probably the biggest education for single guys and from where I was sitting, he was a player but in a way that was so subtle that my girlfriend never even realized that he had dating skills that would get any loser laid. 

I didn’t share this with her but here are the dating tips and takeaways from the first episode that made me wish I knew when I wasn’t in a relationship: 

He chose a restaurant that served food that required chopsticks. Right off the bat, this guy knew which girls would be into trying something new or were sophisticated enough to know how to use chopsticks or if they slurped their food. Personally, that girl that chewed loudly would have had me running out of the door before the check arrived, but he could figure that out immediately just by his restaurant choice. 

Second, this guy was a hell of a listener. He asked open-ended questions and then commented on a few things they said. He shared just enough without having to defend himself or come off looking like a jerk. 

This is not to say that there aren’t some awkward moments but for the most part, this guy’s dating style was one we should all be aspiring to. The episode ends with him meeting up with one of the girls from his blind dates. 

As far as the subsequent episodes they are all pretty entertaining and the widower that looks like Jean-Luc Picard (Leonard episode 4) is a trip to watch and so are his dates. Just a heads up that Episode 3 (Lex) follows a gay guy on his blind dates so I decided to skip that one. 

If you are wondering how NOT to act, Episode 2 (Gurki) don’t do what Justin did on their date—dick move but I’ll let you make up your own mind about it. 

Let us know in the comments what you think of this show and if we missed anything. 

Netflix and Chill and Other Ways to Get Her in the Mood

Foreplay Tips for Guys that are Guaranteed to Turn Her On

Foreplay sometimes takes a back seat once you are in a long-term relationship but foreplay plays a very important role in your sex life—no matter how long you have been together. 

And believe it or not, guys love foreplay as much as women. Here are some ways to drive her crazy before you are even in bed. 

Slow your roll.   Take your time and whatever foreplay you are engaging in don’t rush. This is bound to drive you both wild and that is the whole point. 

Massages can and DO lead to sex.   Well, if you do it right. My girlfriend thinks I give the worst back massages and describes them as downright painful. Instead, I checked out a few videos of foot massages online and mastered the perfect foot massage. It’s less strenuous than going to town on someone’s back and if you have a foot fetish (which I do) it’s a turn-on for both of you. 

Include her in the dirty talk.  I am really into talking dirty but sometimes I realize I am having a one-way conversation about what I want to do to her without mentioning how hot her ass is or how good she smells. 

Kiss more.   Have a good ol’ fashioned makeout session on the sofa focusing on just kissing. I learned this one night by accident. We were having a Netflix and Chill night and we just went for it on the sofa. Of course, being a guy, I stopped kissing her a bit earlier than she liked. 

Take charge.    And by taking charge I don’t mean caveman style. Don’t be timid about what you want to do to her. One of the biggest turnoffs according to my girlfriend is when I ask her, “do you like this?” Instead, own that light smack to the ass. 

Don’t neglect the rest of her body.   It goes without saying that you should spend some time stimulating her via nipples or clitoris, but soft, gentle strokes along her sides, arms or buttocks goes a looong way—for both of you. 

Last but not least, ask her what she likes. This is a question that most women are dying to be asked whether it applies to sex or sushi. 

5 Easy and Inexpensive Ways to Get a Little Love on Valentine’s Day 

5 Easy and Inexpensive Ways to Get a Little Love on Valentine’s Day 

Looking to kick things up a notch in the bedroom this Valentine’s Day? It’s not hard to do and it doesn’t have to cost a fortune. In fact, it’s the little things that go a long way when it comes to women. 

Here are 5 ways to spice things up in the bedroom this Valentine’s Day:

—Create a playlist.   It doesn’t have to be all cheesy love songs unless that’s what she likes. Put together some songs that have meaning for both of you like a concert you attended together or just a random memory surrounding that song. Still stumped? This Spotify Valentines’ Day Playlist is a no brainer. 

—Make dinner.   You don’t have to be a master chef to make a meal that could double as foreplay. Here’s a link for 10 easy ingredient meals any guy can make.

—Leave some love notes around the house.  The cost of sticky notes is minimal, to say the least, or buy a box of cheap valentines and leave them on mirrors or by the coffee maker. Need a little inspiration? Here is a list of love poems that will get her in the mood for love.

—Give her a massage.  Ahh, is there any better way to loosen up than a back massage? Plus, it can easily lead to some serious cuddling, Not sure where to start? Check out this video guaranteed to melt away that stress at a minimum.

—Bring her coffee and breakfast in bed.   Coffee in bed goes a long way but a quick breakfast doesn’t have to be complicated. Is she into pastries? Bring them home the night before. Or whip up some scrambled eggs in the microwave with some toast. Extra points for bringing a single flower to her in bed. Here is how to make scrambled eggs in the microwave to get you started. 

Guys With Better Personalities Get Laid More According to Study

Guys With Better Personalities Get Laid More According to StudyWant to get laid more? You may want to work on your personality, according to an Australian study. 

Late last year, Queensland University of Technology dug a little deeper into a sex study back in 2016. Researchers found that of the1,500 women and 3,000 men surveyed that the personality of the guys made quite an impact on sexual preferences. 

Guys that were more outgoing or extroverted with a more balanced emotional level had more sex. Turns out, it’s a turn on for a guy to be outgoing, aware of others and generally mentally stable. 

This should come as zero surprise to any guy out there that has dated. It’s the one that comes of as confident (even if he’s not), will listen to his date’s story about her co-worker that is out to get her and is not a psycho. It’s not a tall order just dating 101. 

Like it or not, truly confident or not, guys that exude confidence and are mentally stable get laid more. Women see these personality traits are safe which means they are more likely to go home with them.

The study did not specify if men felt the same way but I can tell you from personal experience that some of the hottest women I have dated were not mentally stable. 

Four Reasons Why Most Guys Should Be Taking a Yoga Class

Four Reasons Why Most Guys Should Be Taking a Yoga Class

The gyms are packed this time of year and you can expect to wait a bit longer to grab those free weights or jump on the machine. While hitting the gym is the go-to way get to work strengthening those abs and building those muscles, you may want to consider hitting a yoga studio as well.

That’s right. I got a chance to try out my first class with my girlfriend and let’s just say…mind blown and the benefits extend beyond the eye candy in class (most women are stripped down to just a sports bra and tight yoga pants). 

Here are four reasons and takeaways from attending my first yoga class as a guy.

Did I mention eye candy?   When the class first started I had a hard time focusing in on holding and letting out my breath nevermind warrior pose. The women in yoga classes are flexible, bending over backwards and feel comfortable enough to strip down to tight pants and just a kind-off sporty bra top. I eventually got comfortable enough to be around them but it was a bonus right from the start. 

Increased my range of motion.  I didn’t notice until two days later when I was at the gym mid bi-cep curl that it was easier to move and with less stiffness. Turns out, all the standing tree and back bending loosened me up enough to kill it (in a good way) on weights. The movements and positions that you do during yoga also lengthen mucles in a way that can’t be done when you are doing repetitive exercises at the gym. 

Catching my breath.  Full disclosure? I pay ZERO attention to my breathing unless I am doing reps and using breathing to count. But the practice of just breathing over and over again actually helped me during cardio. I felt that I could pull in more breath and let it out. While the practice of breathing in yoga class wasn’t my favorite, it helped me to keep up my energy level during a run. 

Better sex life.   If my gifrlfriend had told me this sooner I would have hit the yoga studio with her years ago. Instead, I was approached by the yoga instructor/teacher at the end of class and explained how and why yoga improves your sex life. One big reason is a more toned pelvic muscle. In fact, there is a 2011 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine that goes deeper into the many benefits. 

While yoga will never replace my gym workout I am always down for all the other benefits that come with it. So the next time your girlfriend or spouse bugs you about going to yoga with them shock the shit out of them and show up—your body will thank you for it later. 

8 Ways to Turn on a Woman With Minimal Effort 

8 Ways to Turn on a Woman With Minimal Effort 

You may not believe this but it doesn’t take much to turn on a woman. No really. So, stop trying to rack your brain to understand woman on how to get them in the mood. 

Here are 8 ways to turn on a woman with minimal effort:

Cook dinner.  Seriously, throw on an apron, chop up some veggies, sear some meats and turn up the heat in the kitchen and in the bedroom. Here are 25 dinners that you can’t mess up. 

Make coffee.  You don’t even have to bring it to her, but simply set it the night before and have it ready to slurp in the morning. 

Get along with and pretend you like her pet.  Even if you hate cats or happen to be allergic to them, pop some Claritin and snuggle up with “Whiskers” even if he/she wants to claw your eyes out. A little love for her pet means a lot of love in the bedroom. 

Don’t ask or expect recipricol oral pleasure.  Sometimes you have to take one for the team and this is especially true for oral sex which will lead to more sex. 

Clean up.   A little goes a long way when it comes to cleaning up. You don’t have to scrub every surface but pick up some socks, drop the toilet seat (give it a quick scrub if you can) and remove any dishes in the sink. A woman that comes home to a clean apartment will practically jump your bones before you have a chance to take off those dirty socks before you drop them on the floor again. Here’s another reason why you should be doing the dishes.

Unexpected affection.  A quick kiss on the neck while her back is to you or cradled hug or sliding her legs onto your lap while watching TV will lead to a Netflix and Chill night. Here are 8 movies that will get her in the mood for sex.

Give her a massage.   Take your time, slow down and don’t rush. We are talking a real massage that lasts at least 3 minutes. Avoid the temptation to hurry up, press a few shoulder muscles and expect to roll over and go at it. 

Grooming.   You may be tempted to slip into your sweats and take a comfortable position on the couch watching sports. Take a quick shower and invest in some decent-smelling body washes that will drive her crazy. Here are 4 of the best selling body wash scents for men that women like. 

Got Erectile Dysfunction? Could Be Bad Genes Says Study

Got Erectile Dysfunction? Could Be Bad Genes Says Study

If you needed another reason to blame your family you can add ED or erectile dysfunction to the list. Turns out, your genes could be one reason you have trouble keeping an erection, according to a recent survey released by Kaiser Permanente. 

The holidays are getting close so I don’t want to get anyone so pissed off that this comes up as the topic of conversation while dinner rolls are passed over the warmth of a turkey and the coldness of relatives. 

It’s merely to shed some insight on other factors to consider if you are having issues with ED or stamina or both. If you ruled out or shed some pounds, changed up your medications or diet (all under the guidance of your doctor or a medical professional) or eliminated some bad habits then your DNA might be the problem. 

Back to the survey. Kaiser dug a little deeper and actually got a shitton of Americans as in about 37,000 to consent to submitting their medical records for this study. I never questioned why or how they did but it might have something to do with the importance of satisfying your partner.

ED is a big f’in deal for guys. And as you might have guessed those participating that forked over their medical records had either been diagnosed with ED or treated for it. 

Remember how I mentioned shedding some pounds and erections? Well, that was the gene that the study highlighted. In particular, its the gene that has everything to do with getting hard—hard muscles, a hard erection and regulating your weight. 

It wasn’t a big surprise to medical professionals that genes do impact your erections. I mean, they impact whether you end up bald or fighting baldness and resorting to a combover.

However, what was EXCITING news was that scientists and your doctor may know why certains prescription medications such as Viagra have fallen short when it comes to treating ED in those with low testosterone. 

Of the 50% of guys that have ruled out other issues and still suffer from ED, the silver lining is that genetic-based treatments are on the horizon. 

Until that happens, here are some ways that you can help curb ED:

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15 Fun Facts About Sex You Have Always Wanted to Know But Were Afraid to Google

15 Fun Facts About Sex You Have Always Wanted to Know But Were Afraid to Google

Let’s talk about sex, shall we? Have you ever wondered how many calories you actually burn during sex? Do women actually enjoy giving oral sex? Is nipple play a thing?

Enough foreplay, let’s get down to 15 fun facts about sex. 

The average man experiences 11 boners a day and an additional 9 at night. No wonder guys are so horny. If you fear these erections, you suffer from an actual phobia called, ithyphallophobia. Who knew, right?

Apparently, higher education leads to oral education. Women who attended college are more likely to enjoy receiving oral sex and reciprocate as well. 

Married people having plenty of sex—with themselves! Depending on how you look at it, married people tend to masturbate more than their living single counterparts. 

Sex toys are nothing new under the sun. Cave drawings dating back some 30,000 years left us with some pretty steamy images of dildos and people using them. 

If you have never earned your “red wings” you are not alone as around 70% of men don’t have sex when their partner is menstruating. 

Speaking of periods, if a women is on a regular schedule for sex (once a week), she is more likely to have a predictable period cycle. 

People all over the world are still having sex—lots of it! On any given day, 100 million people are engaging in sex. 

If the word, clitoris” makes you squirm, it shouldn’t. It gets its name from the Greek word meaning, goddless like or divine. 

Nipplegasm is a thing. That’s right, there are women out there that get off simply by nipple tweaking. 

Forget Pornhub, Deep Throat is still considered tops in the X-rated movie genre. 

We should really learn to put down our phones more. It’s estimated that 1 in 5 people are still on their damn smartphones during intercourse. And forget hitting the showers, 36% of people turn to social media post coital. This is depressing. 

Guys experience an average time of 6 seconds per orgams while female orgasms last around 20 seconds on average. 

Want more sex dreams? Try changing your sleeping position to your stomach and keep your arms over your head. 

Having issues getting a woman to orgasm? Well, she might have cold feet. No really. Keep her tootsies toasty. 

The bedroom still remains the most popular place to have sex but you might be surprised to learn that the second place would be a vehicle. Privacy is overrated. 

Farts Can Be a Turn on For Some Partners Suggests Survey

Farts Can Be a Turn on For Some Partners Suggests Survey

Ripping one, cutting the cheese, floating an air biscuit aka farting is a turn on for some sexual partners, according to a recent survey released by seniorliving.org. 

The survey, aptly named, Everybody Poops and Farts took a closer look at how our men and women really feel about farts, how we try hiding them and other oddities like people that get turned on by them.

Considering that both men and women fart at least 20 times a day, we’re all on this together.

Let’s jump into some of the survey’s results:

How guys try to mask a fart—

  • 75 percent try the ol’ go-to: holding it in
  • 58 percent slip off to another room 
  • 54 percent head out to the great outdoors 
  • 25 percent try to create a distraction by hiding it with noise such as making a fart sound with your mouth.

I can recall countless dates (usually following a dinner out at a Mexican restaurant) where one false move and a million farts would explode. Most people and I assumed my dates would be grossed-out or even replused by flatulence. And personally speaking, the feeling is mutual when my date farts. 

This makes sense since the survey points to an average of 6.5 months before a guy cracks one in front of his partner—on purpose. Women wait an estimated 1.3 years

Guys wait 6.5 months on average to fart in front of their girlfriend or partner.  Women tend to take longer, waiting on average 1.3 YEARS. 

Now, let’s get to those in the survey that apparently are real freaks and get turned on by a fart. It’s a mere 11 percent for guys and 3 percent of women that think it’s hot. Anything over 1 percent is nasty and the survey also cited that 28 percent of guys have ruined the mood after cracking one while in bed with their partner.