The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

In this blog, we talk quite a bit about erections, sex, foods that help erections and pretty much anything related to guys and sex. What we haven’t touched on are other methods to keep an erection outside of what to eat or what not to eat to keep your sexual stamina flowing. 

Turns out, sex toys are not only for women and can do quite a bit for guys and how long they last in bed. I recently reached out to a gal that held a sex toy party at my house for my girlfriend’s book club. I was told to make myself scarce as nervous giggles gave way to outright laughter while a living room full of woman dug into the dip and discussed the best vibrators to climax. Believe me, I would have liked to have stayed. 

What I did do was snag a business card and hit her up for some advice. She asked that I not use her name because the sex toy party franchise for which she worked would not give her permission. However, what she did allow me to share is sexual stamina gold. 

Here are the best sex toys for guys to last longer in bed:

Cock/Penis Rings 

This is essentially the go-to for guys when trying to reach and keep their climax going. Cock rings help bring more blood flow to the penis leading to more stamina. The other benefit of cock rings is that they are relatively inexpensive and very effective. What matters the most is that YOU READ the directions and follow them. Thankfully, it’s not as complicated as putting together IKEA furniture and quite harmless. 

Penis Pumps

I know what you are picturing or at least hearing in your head, Austin Powers. But penis pumps should be your bag, baby, because the right one does work. Again, like the cock ring, it’s all about the blood flow to your penis and more importantly, increasing the blood flow. I was warned that it’s all about the frequency or consistency of using your penis pump. The more you use it on a regular basis the better and longer your erections. 

Lubricants and Salves

Lubes work and I have been personally using them along with ED natural supplements for a good five years. I use an erection stimulating cream that does exactly what its name implies. But there is more than one type. The other helps stave off sensation without killing it entirely which keeps you from having to think about Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day or following Frankie’s advice and Relax. I would rather feel all the sensation so the lube is a better avenue for me. 

Masturbation Sleeves

The best part about this sexual stamina aid is that practice makes perfect. Simply use it while treating your body as your personal amusement park. Using a masturbation sleeve not only eliminates the need to use your left hand as a “stranger” but it aids in learning to have more control over your orgasms and that’s the whole point to lasting longer.

Signs of Erectile Dysfunction and What You Can Do 

Signs of Erectile Dysfunction ED and What You Can Do 

Every guy at one point in their lives has had trouble getting it up or even keeping it up. It’s an unnerving moment and doesn’t just stress you out but steals a bit of your manhood when it happens. 

There are many reasons for losing an erection that may not necessarily mean you have ED or erectile dysfunction. Erections are impacted by several factors both physical and psychological so you shouldn’t take any chances and describe your symptoms and concerns with your doctor. 

Here are the basic signs of erectile dysfunction and some natural remedies that help with symptoms. 

—Reduced sexual drive.  Lost interest in sex? Yeah, that’s odd for most guys and could be one of the first signs. 

—Issues with keeping or getting an erection. Going limp or issues with getting hard is another obvious sign that you might have ED. 

There is a myriad of causes attributed to ED and some of them are serious like diabetes or heart disease so these tips to are just tips to help with symptoms. Reach out to your doctor before starting any new diet or exercise program. 

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Boost Your Sex Drive With These 5 Foods

5 Foods That Boost Your Sex Drive

You are what you eat and if you are looking to perform better in the bedroom then you will want to start by eating these 5 foods.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Celery.  There has been quite a bit of buzz surrounding celery juice and for good reason. The long, green stalky veggie contains androsterone and adrostenal which work to give you your sexy back or at least feel that way.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Spinach/kale. Dark, green leafy veggies are not just good for your overall health but are chock-full of vitamin A which helps keep your hormonal balance in check. If you are like me and hate kale feel free to go with a spinach salad or smoothie instead.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Dark chocolate. It won’t be hard to tempt your date or partner to eat some dark chocolate especially when it contains phenylethylamine. Phenylethylamine contains an endorphin that creates the same kind of high you feel when you believe you are in love.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Blueberries/strawberries. Berries are good for your health and sex drive. Blueberries contain antioxidants that are amazing for your circulation which travels “all over your body.” As for the strawberries, the benefits are also plentiful. Strawberries are packed full of vitamin c and potassium and more importantly, omega-3 fatty acids which keep your cardiovascular system healthy which means you can last longer.

5 foods to boost your sex drive

Nuts. No pun intended but the whole nut family contains a plethora of fatty acids which boost endorphins and dilate those blood vessels which in turn, kicks up blood flow to your penis. You’re welcome.

Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed Helps Heighten Orgasms in Women According to Recent Study

Weed, sex and stoner films could have been the topic of my college thesis so a recent study on the topic of sex and orgasms in women makes total sense. 

The recent study released by The International Society for Sexual Medicine asked around 400 women over a year’s time about their sex lives. Turns out, the women (68.5%) that used marijuana before having intercourse reported having a more deleterious time when compared to those that didn’t. 

The benefits of enjoying grass before sex also extended to a stronger sex drive overall for a  whopping 60.6% of women. Of the 52.8% of women that enjoy marijuana with their sex reported enjoying more gratifying orgasms overall. 

For women that experience pain during sex (and not in a good way) the study’s results pointed to a drop in discomfort for women that consume marijuana on a regular basis.

Additionally, of those women that frequently use cannabis claimed to have enjoyed their orgasms twice as much as those that infrequently imbibe the plant. 

If you’ve ever smoked weed or enjoyed an edible you have no doubt mellowed out considerably and for some (myself included) dropped your inhibitions and got a little horny.

The researches of this study offered a more scientific reason for why women enjoyed sex and sexual satisfaction much more citing the connection between cannabinoid receptors hormonal release. 

The study’s results also pointed to an increase of neurotransmitter dopamine related to marijuana use which greatly impacts sexual function. 

However, the study researchers also pointed out that the plethora of cannabinoids out there so not all lead to the best sex she might have ever had or overall better sex life. Which basically means that there are other cannabinoids could find your girl sandwiches between a bag of chips and a tub of peanut butter rather than the sheets. 

Thankfully, I live in Colorado and can put this study to the test on an ongoing basis provided my girlfriend is a willing participant but I don’t think that will take too much coaxing for her or most women. 

 

 

The 4 Best Sexual Positions You Should Try That Aren’t Freaky 

The 4 Best Sexual Positions You Should Try That Aren’t Freaky 

If your girlfriend or partner is anything like mine, you have certainly fallen into a sexual slump of sorts. Between our careers, our pets and the demands of day-to-day life and stress, the most we can hope for is a quicky missionary style position squeezed between a workout and a shower.  

That’s not to say that I don’t get off and I really hope that she does, but I have to admit that I sometimes look forward to getting myself off—at least in my mind we are doing it doggy style. 

So, in my quest to get her off and allowing me to look forward to more than a tug in the shower, I decided to look for new sexual positions that aren’t too freaky or would lead to a chiropractor visit for both of us. 

Just to make sure that we were on the same page, I involved her in my sexual positions research. The research was the best part and we walked away with what we consider the best sexual positions that aren’t freaky and feel amazing! 

The cowgirl.   I started with this one because it became my girlfriend’s favorite position and there are many reasons starting with easy access to the man in the boat. The cowgirl is basically when your girl is on top. But it’s not enough for her to just be on top and you end up doing all the damn work. If that is your plan then don’t waste your time. She has to be into it and give your testicles a little love (gently) while she is doing half the work on top. Bonus points for allowing a little more pull out and thrust. Get your rhythm right and you are in for a wild ride! 

Reverse cowgirl.   She is going to love this position more than you will mostly because you won’t be able to see her breasts while thrusting but then again…it’s all about both of you getting off, am I right? This simple position is the cowgirl but she has her back to you allowing for more clitoris play but allows you to focus on a deeper reach (if you know what I mean). 

The naughty missionary.   I know I started off with missionary style as the standard go-to so a good way to ease into a new sexual position is to work with what you know. If you find it hard to try something too crazy and if she is flexible and willing, try having her put her legs in missionary style behind your knees. Take things up a notch by using a pillow under her buttocks to raise up her hips. This adds a bit of comfort and allows you to reach her “g” spot with ease. 

Bend over.  This position has become a new favorite and gets you out of the bedroom. Basically, you have her bend over a chair or better yet, a soft armrest on a chair and go to town doggy-style from behind. The nice part about this position is that it can be spontaneous and saves both of your knees. Keep in mind that she will want to pick a chair, table or armrest that allows her to bend over at the waist. 

One last thing I will leave you with is that adding a mirror and playing voyeur is going to take all of these positions to a new level. Need a little help lasting longer? Check out our blog on 6 tips to help guys last longer.

Recent Study Focuses on the Sex Lives of Men and Women Over 50

Recent Study Shows Focuses on Sex and Men and Women Over 50

Most of the sex surveys involving lots of sexual partners leave out those over 50 years-old. Which is why this recent survey from British researchers was an interesting take and long overdue.

The research dug deep into the lives of over 7,000 men and women over 50 and the results are somewhat surprising. Let’s start with the more obvious findings that are also stereotypically on point. 

Guys tend to have more sexual partners during their lifetime than women. And guys with more money or higher on the economic ladder and especially over 50, tend to have even more partners. But there was also good news for the broke guys out there. The study also pointed to the lower 20% of economic status with a higher amount of sexual partners. 

Sex experts attribute the amount of sex and partners more affluent older men have to a life with less of the stress that life brings for younger and middle-class men. For the guys that are broke, they may not be able to buy a Rolex but they can still have sex. 

Now, onto the ladies and it’s good news for us guys. White, bisexual women that stayed fit and didn’t deal with the usual physical afflictions associated with being out-of-shape had a higher number of sexual partners. 

I mean, if they are hitting the gym on a regular basis, women and men are more likely to have a better body and know it. And of course, regular exercise leads to a better sex life as well. 

Bad news for the married people out there with kids still living at home. We all have or know a divorced friend that shows up in the office every Monday with a story about a hookup on Match. The study also supports that it’s not just a made-up story. Men and women that are divorced never walked down the aisle and are single have slept with more people. 

Now, I am not condoning this but your friends that drink their asses off and were smokers at one time, also had more sexual partners. That being said, I will turn 50 one day and it’s encouraging to know that you can still have quite a bit a sex and with as many partners as you can—just keep using a rubber. 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

The Biggest Turn-Offs for Women that Guys Have No Clue They’re Doing 

It happens to all guys. You are working your ass off to turn her on and then what was a hot moment turns ice cold as she just lays there or makes up an excuse to go home. 

Chances are, you did something in bed that was a big turn off. Here is a list of the biggest turn-offs for women so you can avoid doing them. 

—Spanking.   Unless she has asked for it and you KNOW it’s a turn one, refrain from the urge to give her a smack on the bottom. It doesn’t matter if you hit hard or just a light tap it’s still a turnoff. 

—Uncomfortable sex positions.  It’s always a good idea to try new things in the bedroom and different sexual positions are no exception as missionary position can get old. But if holding that position comes with a painful pulling sensation in her shoulder or neck, you can bet that is not the kind of pain she was looking for. Pay attention and consider which ones work best even if she’s into yoga. 

—Hickeys or biting.   This falls into the same category as spanking. If you are certain that she’s got a thing for vampires and enjoys the pressing of teeth into her neck, then try it. Otherwise, steer clear of it and also consider that it’s not sanitary either. Hickeys are a bit tacky at the office anyways. Just skip it. 

—Hair pulling.  A little pull to show dominance is great but severe pulling of hair hurts like hell and can shift the mood pretty fast in the bedroom. If you know what you are doing then test it out, otherwise…stroke instead of pull. 

—Too much dirty talk.  Most of us enjoy a little dirty talk and even some role-playing but there such thing as too much of a good thing when your fantasy gets nasty. 

—Sloppy oral that never ends.  Women really appreciate oral so, by all means, go for it but if you’ve been down there awhile come up for air and make sure all the work you’re doing is working. 

—Quick cleanup.  Getting up and grabbing a towel is one thing, but taking that window of time following intimacy to all of the sudden want to clean the sheets and clean off nightstands is a turnoff. Leave a tender moment alone. 

—Silent sex.  This obviously doesn’t apply to avoid alerting anyone to your romp. Throw in a moan in there or tell her how good it feels. Long periods of silence is just weird. 

—Weird mood music.  One of my female friends once described a creepy incident with a guy she had started dating. He decided to create a playlist to get her in the mood. Turns out, he was really into death metal. She high-tailed it out of there and never saw him again. 

In the end, it’s all about communication so just pay attention to your partner and how they react to what you are doing. Who knows…maybe she is into spanking wouldn’t hurt to ask.

New Study Shows Fewer Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rising STDs

New Study Shows Less Guys Are Wrapping it Up in Spite of Rise of STDs

The amount of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis are at an all-time high right now, according to data from the CDC or Centers for Disease Control. That means that “the clap” is also at an all-time high and that is nothing to applaud about. 

It should also come as no surprise that those numbers are higher because less-and-less guys are wrapping it up or using a condom. 

I was in college in the mid1990s and condoms and safe sex was everywhere. In fact, I remember going to clubs and there were baskets of condoms that someone was usually handing out or they were just sitting on the bar for the taking. 

Then again, the AIDS epidemic was very real back then and I was more fearful of contracting HIV then chlamydia but then again, I didn’t want to get that either. I lost my virginity using a condom on prom night in high school. 

It was years before I went hot-doggin’ without a condom. I was a senior in college before I got the nerve to go without one and I had been in a steady relationship for a few months. We also both got tested together and before we hopped into bed.

Now, the sensation is better. There is no denying that and it’s definitely more intense but the idea of dealing with getting tested, contracting herpes or experiencing the pain and burning while peeing then showing up in a clinic with a drippy Johnson is not worth it. 

I’ve managed to dodge the STD bullet thanks to condoms and for those continue to have casual sex with several partners here are the most common symptoms of STDs in guys:

Blisters on or around the penis.

Spots, bumps or lesions on the penis

Discharge (clear, white, or yellow)

Oozing from the tip of the penis (thick or thin)

Painful urination

Painful ejaculation

Itching on the tip of the penis

OR, you might not have any symptoms and you are spreading this shit to every girl you’re sleeping with which means you are also spreading it to other guys. One thing I can tell you, all of those symptoms will certainly mess up your sex life if you get them which is much worse than wearing a condom.

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys 

Netflix’s Show Dating Around Full of Dating Tips for Guys

Now that I am completely caught up on Peaky Blinders, I was looking for a new show to binge watch. Normally, my Netflix show tastes differ greatly from my girlfriend’s choices. She’s into shows like Glow, The Crown, and re-runs of Friends. 

It took some convincing but she talked me into watching the new Netflix show, Dating Around. It’s still a reality show about dating but a far cry from the early days of dating like Shipmates. Remeber.. it was hosted by Chris Hardwick..yes, the same Chris Hardwick that hosts The Walking Dead’s equally-successful talk show, Talking Dead.

There wasn’t much to learn from the show besides how far people will go to be total dicks or to get laid. But we’ve come a long way since 2001-2003. Well, kinda. Back to Netflix’s Dating Around. 

When she first hit the play button, I was like, “is this another version of The Bachelor?” But after it was on for about 5 minutes, I realized there was more going on that some douchebag trying to string along a bunch of girls looking for their fifteen minutes. 

In Dating Around there is no rose. Each show opens with one person on several different dates at the same restaurant hoping to meet someone that they like enough for a second date. That’s right, the pressure of love or “finding that special person” has been lifted which is just one of many reasons that I think guys will enjoy it as well. 

The first episode is probably the biggest education for single guys and from where I was sitting, he was a player but in a way that was so subtle that my girlfriend never even realized that he had dating skills that would get any loser laid. 

I didn’t share this with her but here are the dating tips and takeaways from the first episode that made me wish I knew when I wasn’t in a relationship: 

He chose a restaurant that served food that required chopsticks. Right off the bat, this guy knew which girls would be into trying something new or were sophisticated enough to know how to use chopsticks or if they slurped their food. Personally, that girl that chewed loudly would have had me running out of the door before the check arrived, but he could figure that out immediately just by his restaurant choice. 

Second, this guy was a hell of a listener. He asked open-ended questions and then commented on a few things they said. He shared just enough without having to defend himself or come off looking like a jerk. 

This is not to say that there aren’t some awkward moments but for the most part, this guy’s dating style was one we should all be aspiring to. The episode ends with him meeting up with one of the girls from his blind dates. 

As far as the subsequent episodes they are all pretty entertaining and the widower that looks like Jean-Luc Picard (Leonard episode 4) is a trip to watch and so are his dates. Just a heads up that Episode 3 (Lex) follows a gay guy on his blind dates so I decided to skip that one. 

If you are wondering how NOT to act, Episode 2 (Gurki) don’t do what Justin did on their date—dick move but I’ll let you make up your own mind about it. 

Let us know in the comments what you think of this show and if we missed anything. 

Netflix and Chill and Other Ways to Get Her in the Mood

Foreplay Tips for Guys that are Guaranteed to Turn Her On

Foreplay sometimes takes a back seat once you are in a long-term relationship but foreplay plays a very important role in your sex life—no matter how long you have been together. 

And believe it or not, guys love foreplay as much as women. Here are some ways to drive her crazy before you are even in bed. 

Slow your roll.   Take your time and whatever foreplay you are engaging in don’t rush. This is bound to drive you both wild and that is the whole point. 

Massages can and DO lead to sex.   Well, if you do it right. My girlfriend thinks I give the worst back massages and describes them as downright painful. Instead, I checked out a few videos of foot massages online and mastered the perfect foot massage. It’s less strenuous than going to town on someone’s back and if you have a foot fetish (which I do) it’s a turn-on for both of you. 

Include her in the dirty talk.  I am really into talking dirty but sometimes I realize I am having a one-way conversation about what I want to do to her without mentioning how hot her ass is or how good she smells. 

Kiss more.   Have a good ol’ fashioned makeout session on the sofa focusing on just kissing. I learned this one night by accident. We were having a Netflix and Chill night and we just went for it on the sofa. Of course, being a guy, I stopped kissing her a bit earlier than she liked. 

Take charge.    And by taking charge I don’t mean caveman style. Don’t be timid about what you want to do to her. One of the biggest turnoffs according to my girlfriend is when I ask her, “do you like this?” Instead, own that light smack to the ass. 

Don’t neglect the rest of her body.   It goes without saying that you should spend some time stimulating her via nipples or clitoris, but soft, gentle strokes along her sides, arms or buttocks goes a looong way—for both of you. 

Last but not least, ask her what she likes. This is a question that most women are dying to be asked whether it applies to sex or sushi.