Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Getting ghosted or the practice of ghosting is nothing new but it’s especially frustrating in an age of smartphones where you can reach someone instantly. Urban Dictionary defines ghosting as: “When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.”

Here are some signs that you are or you are about to be ghosted by your girlfriend or partner. 

—Your text responses are one-liners or the dreaded answer of just “k”. This response can typically dissolve into no very delayed responses to no response at all. 

—Her profiles dissapear from your social media. At first, you might be thinking that she took a break from social media or she might have just quit that specific social media platform. If you found them by googling their Instagram account then chances are she blocked you from finding them.

—She avoids talking about the future or future plans with you. All you are trying to do is get them to commit to meeting up after work for drinks but even that subject seems off limits. 

—Not only does she seem to avoid making casual plans to meet up but eye contact is avoided as well. 

—She’s crytic about plans that used to include you and we’re not talking a girls night out or some after hours co-worker crap she has to commit to that week. 

—Her body language gives the signal that she would rather be in a snake pit than across the table from you. That uneasy feeling might not be in your head if it’s become a regular occurence. 

—She’s a no-show and it becomes a regular occurrence with little regard and their excuse is how busy she has been. 

Some of these examples of ghosting might be legit so for the sake of sanity and closure you could simply ask for a simple answer. However, people that use ghosting clearly have issues with confrontation and are too emotionally immature or have a genuine fear of breaking up or bagging out of moving forward with a relatioship. 

It hurts but accept that it’s their loss and vent to your friends over a couple of beers rather than hounding her for an answer she will never give you. 

Give Your Sex Life a Boost With These Simple Everyday Habits 

Give Your Sex Life a Boost With These Simple Everyday Habits 

You may be surprised to know that spicing up your sex life doesn’t involve drawing warm bubble baths, lighting candles or dropping a trail of rose petals (although that wouldn’t hurt). In fact, simply incorporating these every day habits can lead to a better sex life with your partner. 

Here a list of everyday habits you should practice for a better sex life: 

Divide up the chores.   A recent survey points to a more robust sex life for couples that share in the chores such as cooking, dishwashing and grocery shopping together. It doesn’t sound very sexy but apparently sharing means caring and can be a big turn-on for women. 

Stop stressing.   Sex may relieve stress but de-stressing before having sex means better sex. Work, bills, health issues, family…the list is endless when it comes to triggers that raise our cortisol levels and block the libido we want. Whatever allows you brain dump and let go some of life’s stresses should happen before you get busy between the sheets. A light walk, an upper body workout, walking the dog or sipping on a glass of vino can be effective to unwinding. 

A better diet.   You are what you eat and this applies to your sex life as well. Certain foods can block the libido you want and need. Foods such as mint, coffee, diet drinks and sodas can screw with your screwing. Consider incorporating vitamins and supplements into your diet. Here are 11 foods that will boost your health and stamina. But before you consider changing up your diet, consult with your doctor first. 

Exercise.   Not only is regular exercise good for your body but it’s integral to your sex life as well. Consider working out at least 3 times a week for at least 30 minutes. In fact, try working out with your partner. Check out this list of exercises that every guy should do for better performance in bed. 

Consider your medications.  Anti-depressants high-blood pressure drugs have been linked to a lower libido. Consult with your physician about what medications you are taking any other options or alternative medications that work best for your body. 

Turn off the TV and turn up your sex life.  Multiple studies have shown that a TV in your bedroom can kill the mood. Television can be a big distraction from making love and that’s the last thing you want when you are trying to have a healthy sex life. If you must keep one in your bedroom, consider limiting what hours it is on. 

Lastly, if you think it’s more an emotional or commitment issue, consider seeking couples counseling. 

What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to Survey

What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to SurveyMy Uncle Jeff had a copy of a book in his living room title, “A Man’s Guide to Understanding Women.” When you flipped through the 200 pages, you realized they were blank. 

It was a good laugh and still is today but I remember being slightly bummed out when I initially tried reading it as a teen. 

The realization that I would never get laid before I started college stressed me out more than the acne I was battling. Of course, there is always some friend in your life that thinks he has it figured out and tries feeding you the kind of advice you might get from Mike Damone from the cult classic, Fast Times at Ridgemont High. 

At least Uncle Jeff’s book was accurate. Well, turns out…what women consider good qualities in men is a bit of a surprise, according to recent surveys conducted by BestLifeOnline.com and New Jersey’s Opinion Research Corporation. Spoiler alert: it’s not “manliness” or taking control. 

The survey data is solid and the surveyors went through the trouble to ask over 1,000 women with the very drastic age range of 21-54 years old. 

As much as you need to work on those six-pack abs and not look like a general slob, women still prefer personality over looks. 

In fact, 66 percent of surveyed women feel that moral integrity is a big turn on along with kindness (at 67%). Basically, you need to have a moral compass and not be a shit bag. Just a mere 13 percent claimed to care about muscles (not that one!). 

Guys that can be faithful, have a sense of humor, be a good listener and have decent fashion sense also snagged top spots. I have to wonder…are they looking for a straight guy? 

Still, it’s good to know that some of the pressure is off and we can still work at some of these traits.

And the good news is that women still rank being good in bed as a very desired trait as well. Can’t wait to share these findings with Uncle Jeff. 

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Not one but three recently-published studies found that men still want women to keep a clean house but the same is not expected of men. 

After (admittedly) only skimming all three studies, I wanted to share my perspective as a guy that keeps a tidy house and why I still hold women to the same standard and can’t understand why women don’t do the same to men.

Let’s start by going way back to the mid-90s. At the time I was still in college and busting my ass waiting tables at night. One evening after finishing my shift I picked up a girl that had what I call, “catnip.” She wasn’t pretty but she had a sexy vibe about her, a great figure and was super uninhibiated—all turn-ons for guys. 

One drink led to another and I took her back to my place. I hadn’t planned on getting laid that night so my apartment was not picked-up but not filthy either. I might have had some dishes in the sink and maybe a pair of dirty boxers on the floor but nothing had really accumulated. 

However, the piece of shit car that I drove her home that night was so clean you could eat off the floor. I remember her asking for a drink and asking to slip off to use the bathroom. As I fumbled through my nightstand trying to locate a condom, she emerged from the bathroom wearing nothing but a smile. It was a night of some of the best sex I have ever had. 

This, of course, led to another hook-up night. This time, she picked me up in her ride—a glorified sports car for the working class, the Geo Storm. 

I opened the door only to be hit with the pungent odor of what smelled like cat piss. But if that wasn’t enough to shock me, the floor of the car could not be seen because it was covered in compressed piles of old convenience-store cups, fast-food chain wrappers, and petrified french fries. The cloth seats also had so many stains that it was impossible to figure out the actual color. Assuming those stains might contain urine, I asked for a napkin to sit on. She obliged and fished out a stack of napkins from her glove compartment which appeared to have deep scratches from a rabid animal. 

The backseat was even worse. When I asked her how long she had had the car, she said it was less than a year old. I was already turned off before we even got to her apartment. My mind raced to wonder how nasty her place would be if her car looked like this. My suspicions and fears were confirmed.  In a metal cage in the corner, her wildlife aggressively tried to escape its confines to either attack me or more likely, take another piss. 

Turns out, she had a pet raccoon and the smell in her place matched the smell in her car.  Like her car, every surface was covered in discarded take-out boxes which made sense since she ran out of clean dishes and cookware which sat in the sink with the memory of old meals still stuck to its insides. 

This was not my proudest moment but while she readied herself in the bathroom, I bolted out of there, tracked down a payphone and called a buddy for a ride. 

I’m sure my actions hurt her enough to share the story with her friends over coffee or a cocktail but I was seriously concerned that I was going to catch an STD (thankfully, we had used a condom earlier). This is an extreme case but from that day forward—a made it a point to never date a woman that keeps a filthy car and to make sure that I never let my place get that disgusting either. I mean, if that was enough to turn me off to amazing sex, then I wondered how women would feel about that dirty pair of boxers or the fact that I hadn’t given two craps about simply rinsing food from my dishes.

To this day, I am a bit of a neat freak and I do most of the cleaning. My girlfriend appreciates this immensely and it makes our relationship much better.

Women should be holding men to a higher standard of cleanliness than they do and men should not have to feel like dickheads for not hooking up with a girl that doesn’t have enough sense to run a dishwasher or keep her floors clean enough that you can see the original color. 

Women (and this is just my opinion) typically have a harder time living with dirty boxers on the floor or whiskers clinging to toothpaste droppings in the sink, but you may have to start leaving it there for us guys to clean. Believe me, we will eventually cave because no one wants to look at that crap long term. 

As for guys, it’s time we all held ourselves to the same standard of cleanliness that is expected of our girlfriends and wives because no one wants to live like it’s Joe’s Apartment. 

In fact, another study published last year found that guys that bother to help out with household chores and grocery shopping had better sex and that’s a study we can all get behind.