Getting ghosted or the practice of ghosting is nothing new but it’s especially frustrating in an age of smartphones where you can reach someone instantly. Urban Dictionary defines ghosting as: “When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.”
Here are some signs that you are or you are about to be ghosted by your girlfriend or partner.
—Your text responses are one-liners or the dreaded answer of just “k”. This response can typically dissolve into no very delayed responses to no response at all.
—Her profiles dissapear from your social media. At first, you might be thinking that she took a break from social media or she might have just quit that specific social media platform. If you found them by googling their Instagram account then chances are she blocked you from finding them.
—She avoids talking about the future or future plans with you. All you are trying to do is get them to commit to meeting up after work for drinks but even that subject seems off limits.
—Not only does she seem to avoid making casual plans to meet up but eye contact is avoided as well.
—She’s crytic about plans that used to include you and we’re not talking a girls night out or some after hours co-worker crap she has to commit to that week.
—Her body language gives the signal that she would rather be in a snake pit than across the table from you. That uneasy feeling might not be in your head if it’s become a regular occurence.
—She’s a no-show and it becomes a regular occurrence with little regard and their excuse is how busy she has been.
Some of these examples of ghosting might be legit so for the sake of sanity and closure you could simply ask for a simple answer. However, people that use ghosting clearly have issues with confrontation and are too emotionally immature or have a genuine fear of breaking up or bagging out of moving forward with a relatioship.
It hurts but accept that it’s their loss and vent to your friends over a couple of beers rather than hounding her for an answer she will never give you.