If your girlfriend or partner is anything like mine, you have certainly fallen into a sexual slump of sorts. Between our careers, our pets and the demands of day-to-day life and stress, the most we can hope for is a quicky missionary style position squeezed between a workout and a shower.
That’s not to say that I don’t get off and I really hope that she does, but I have to admit that I sometimes look forward to getting myself off—at least in my mind we are doing it doggy style.
So, in my quest to get her off and allowing me to look forward to more than a tug in the shower, I decided to look for new sexual positions that aren’t too freaky or would lead to a chiropractor visit for both of us.
Just to make sure that we were on the same page, I involved her in my sexual positions research. The research was the best part and we walked away with what we consider the best sexual positions that aren’t freaky and feel amazing!
The cowgirl. I started with this one because it became my girlfriend’s favorite position and there are many reasons starting with easy access to the man in the boat. The cowgirl is basically when your girl is on top. But it’s not enough for her to just be on top and you end up doing all the damn work. If that is your plan then don’t waste your time. She has to be into it and give your testicles a little love (gently) while she is doing half the work on top. Bonus points for allowing a little more pull out and thrust. Get your rhythm right and you are in for a wild ride!
Reverse cowgirl. She is going to love this position more than you will mostly because you won’t be able to see her breasts while thrusting but then again…it’s all about both of you getting off, am I right? This simple position is the cowgirl but she has her back to you allowing for more clitoris play but allows you to focus on a deeper reach (if you know what I mean).
The naughty missionary. I know I started off with missionary style as the standard go-to so a good way to ease into a new sexual position is to work with what you know. If you find it hard to try something too crazy and if she is flexible and willing, try having her put her legs in missionary style behind your knees. Take things up a notch by using a pillow under her buttocks to raise up her hips. This adds a bit of comfort and allows you to reach her “g” spot with ease.
Bend over. This position has become a new favorite and gets you out of the bedroom. Basically, you have her bend over a chair or better yet, a soft armrest on a chair and go to town doggy-style from behind. The nice part about this position is that it can be spontaneous and saves both of your knees. Keep in mind that she will want to pick a chair, table or armrest that allows her to bend over at the waist.
One last thing I will leave you with is that adding a mirror and playing voyeur is going to take all of these positions to a new level. Need a little help lasting longer? Check out our blog on 6 tips to help guys last longer.