It happens to all guys. You are working your ass off to turn her on and then what was a hot moment turns ice cold as she just lays there or makes up an excuse to go home.
Chances are, you did something in bed that was a big turn off. Here is a list of the biggest turn-offs for women so you can avoid doing them.
—Spanking. Unless she has asked for it and you KNOW it’s a turn one, refrain from the urge to give her a smack on the bottom. It doesn’t matter if you hit hard or just a light tap it’s still a turnoff.
—Uncomfortable sex positions. It’s always a good idea to try new things in the bedroom and different sexual positions are no exception as missionary position can get old. But if holding that position comes with a painful pulling sensation in her shoulder or neck, you can bet that is not the kind of pain she was looking for. Pay attention and consider which ones work best even if she’s into yoga.
—Hickeys or biting. This falls into the same category as spanking. If you are certain that she’s got a thing for vampires and enjoys the pressing of teeth into her neck, then try it. Otherwise, steer clear of it and also consider that it’s not sanitary either. Hickeys are a bit tacky at the office anyways. Just skip it.
—Hair pulling. A little pull to show dominance is great but severe pulling of hair hurts like hell and can shift the mood pretty fast in the bedroom. If you know what you are doing then test it out, otherwise…stroke instead of pull.
—Too much dirty talk. Most of us enjoy a little dirty talk and even some role-playing but there such thing as too much of a good thing when your fantasy gets nasty.
—Sloppy oral that never ends. Women really appreciate oral so, by all means, go for it but if you’ve been down there awhile come up for air and make sure all the work you’re doing is working.
—Quick cleanup. Getting up and grabbing a towel is one thing, but taking that window of time following intimacy to all of the sudden want to clean the sheets and clean off nightstands is a turnoff. Leave a tender moment alone.
—Silent sex. This obviously doesn’t apply to avoid alerting anyone to your romp. Throw in a moan in there or tell her how good it feels. Long periods of silence is just weird.
—Weird mood music. One of my female friends once described a creepy incident with a guy she had started dating. He decided to create a playlist to get her in the mood. Turns out, he was really into death metal. She high-tailed it out of there and never saw him again.
In the end, it’s all about communication so just pay attention to your partner and how they react to what you are doing. Who knows…maybe she is into spanking wouldn’t hurt to ask.