9 Dos and Don’ts Every Guy Should Know on a First Date

Whether you want to impress or just get undressed, your best first impression needs to lead and set the tone for the date. 

Here is a list of 9 Dos and Don’ts every guy should know before that first date:

Compliment.  It seems corny and clique to kick off the night with a compliment on her shoes, dress or her smile but leading with just the old standby, “you look great” goes a long way. Consult your dictionary for more creative adjectives prior to your date. 

Stay off your phone.  Unless you are on-call as a physician, silence your phone and set it aside. If you DO have to take a call, always offer a quick apology and explain that the call is important and step away briefly—BRIEFLY so that you are not keeping your date as a captive audience.

Timing is golden.  Scheduling a date after 9pm (unless both of your schedules will NEVER offer a night off) is a turn off. Speaking of scheduling, if possible, make reservations AHEAD of time. If you are really a player, arrive 30 minutes prior to your reservation time and have a drink at restaurant bar to help get to know each other. 

Talking about EXES is OFF LIMITS.  Don’t bring your baggage to dinner in the form of an ex-girlfriend or wife, partner….whatever. This clearly signals that you still hold a flame, candle or at least a spark for that ex and is just a big freaking turn off. Live in the moment. 

Don’t bring up how much money you make or don’t.  Believe me, if you work at the car wash versus owning one she has already done the math in her head. If she knew your career choice before the date, she obviously doesn’t put a lot of value on your income and could make her a keeper. 

Marriage.   Maybe she’s the one or maybe she’s the one right now, but the “M” word does not belong in any sentence on a first date. I think this is for obvious reasons. 

Don’t get shit-faced.   Skip a second scotch-and-soda or a cocktail. You are trying to make the best first impression and seriously, no one likes to be out with a guy that can’t handle his liquor which basically means he can’t handle himself. Keep yourself in check for that first date. 

DO bring mints and floss.  Slip some floss and mints in your pocket…it’s better to have them with you than not. Just don’t floss your teeth at the table. No, just…no. 

Show some interest.  Even if she is talking non-stop about the cat videos that her roommate makes and has a strong following on YouTube try to act interested. If the conversation continues to only center around cats see if you can’t persuade her to tell you more about her job or here’s an ice-breaker—ask her about her boss. 

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