Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Signs She is Ghosting You and How to Handle It 

Getting ghosted or the practice of ghosting is nothing new but it’s especially frustrating in an age of smartphones where you can reach someone instantly. Urban Dictionary defines ghosting as: “When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice beforehand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.”

Here are some signs that you are or you are about to be ghosted by your girlfriend or partner. 

—Your text responses are one-liners or the dreaded answer of just “k”. This response can typically dissolve into no very delayed responses to no response at all. 

—Her profiles dissapear from your social media. At first, you might be thinking that she took a break from social media or she might have just quit that specific social media platform. If you found them by googling their Instagram account then chances are she blocked you from finding them.

—She avoids talking about the future or future plans with you. All you are trying to do is get them to commit to meeting up after work for drinks but even that subject seems off limits. 

—Not only does she seem to avoid making casual plans to meet up but eye contact is avoided as well. 

—She’s crytic about plans that used to include you and we’re not talking a girls night out or some after hours co-worker crap she has to commit to that week. 

—Her body language gives the signal that she would rather be in a snake pit than across the table from you. That uneasy feeling might not be in your head if it’s become a regular occurence. 

—She’s a no-show and it becomes a regular occurrence with little regard and their excuse is how busy she has been. 

Some of these examples of ghosting might be legit so for the sake of sanity and closure you could simply ask for a simple answer. However, people that use ghosting clearly have issues with confrontation and are too emotionally immature or have a genuine fear of breaking up or bagging out of moving forward with a relatioship. 

It hurts but accept that it’s their loss and vent to your friends over a couple of beers rather than hounding her for an answer she will never give you. 

5 Ways to Boost Your Libido With Minimal Effort 

5 Ways to Boost Your Libido With Minimal Effort 

Having trouble keeping it up or just want to strengthen your current longevity? You don’t have to do anything drastic. With these simple tips, you will be “strong like bull” in no time. 

  1. Masturbate. See, told you it would be easy. Masturbation doesn’t make you blind but it’s great practice for sex. Just follow Frankie’s advice and relax without rushing to maximum longevity. 

2. Knock off the bad habits. If you are still smoking or drinking in excess you are not doing yourself any favors in the bedroom. Smoking constricts blood vessels which work against that erection. If you like red wine it can be helpful for circulation just take it easy and keep it to a minimum. 

3. Sunshine. Getting a little sun boosts the production of melatonin which could lead to an increase in your sex drive. Like alcohol consumption, keep your intake to a minimum. 

4. Take your vitamins. Vitamins and supplements are a great way to stay healthy with the added benefit of lasting longer in bed. Vitamin B3 gives you energy while Vitamin B6 help boost sperm production. Wanna know what other vitamins you should be taking? Here is a blog on 6 vitamins you should be taking to help increase your stamina.

5. De-stress. Don’t feel like you need to run out try a yoga class (although that wouldn’t hurt) but finding ways to destress is essential to any guy’s performance. Lifting weights or biking is a healthy approach and can only help. 

Before starting any new diet or exercise program always consult with your physician first. 

 

4 Basic Manscaping Tips Every Guy Should Know

4 Basic Manscaping Tips Every Guy Should Know

If you haven’t googled “pineapple penis” I’ll save you the trouble. It’s the latest manscaping trend and basically involves shaving all the hair off the base of your penis and letting it grow until it gets prickly like a pineapple. Not sure why this is a thing. Personally speaking, that phase of growth is pretty uncomfortable and leads to lots of ball scratching and adjusting of my junk.

If a pineapple penis is not your thing, you still should manscape mostly because women appreciate it more which leads to more sex. 

For those of you new to manscaping or those that are not sure they were ever doing it right here are 4 basic tips to scape your junk. 

Tip 1:  Don’t use products that would cause red bumps, itching, or anything else that would lead to the kind of itching associated with crabs or an STD. For instance, don’t use the shaving cream you would use on your face to shave your shaft. Avoid mineral oil, heavy scents, and “cooling” or “soothing” products which contain eucalyptus and could burn. 

Tip 2. Exfoliating goes a long way in preventing some nasty-ass in-grown hairs. Just like your face, you will want to open up your pores with steam or warm water. The easiest and best way is to just do it while you are in the shower. Just make sure you are not using regular body soap and an exfoliating soap that contains volcanic lava rock. 

Tip 3:  Don’t be tempted to use the same razor that you use on your face. DON’T DO IT.  For the sake of safety, use an electric shaver and clean and maintain the blades properly.  After all, ball hair is a different kind of hair than facial hair. Plus, there is a bacteria issue. Check out the manscaped set that comes with an electric razor and deodorant for your balls.

Tip 4:  There is no shortage of videos out there that show you the proper technique for getting and maintaining the most desirable manscape design. Take the time to watch these videos and follow them before trying it first. I mean…you don’t want to end up with cactus penis nevermind a pineapple one. Here’s a video to get you started.

There is no wrong way as far as how you want to design, fluff or trim your pubic hair just don’t be in a hurry and follow the above basic tips. 

New Study Shows How Often We Think About Sex and With Whom We Share our Sexual Adventures

New Study Shows How Often We Think and Share our Sexual Adventures

A new study conducted by OnePoll for the beauty and bedroom accessories company, Pure Romance asked American men and women how often they think about sex. Additionally, the study found that women share their own sexual exploits as much as men. 

Overall, Americans admitted to thinking about sex on average eight times a day. And turns out, women think about sex more than most guys realize. In fact, women think about sex seven times a day while guys think about sex nine times a day. 

Of those surveyed, 65 percent were chill about sharing the deets on their sex life with the average man or woman sharing what happens between the sheets with up to four people. 

So….who the heck are Americans sharing their sex lives with?

According to the survey we are sharing our sex life with:

61% spouse/significant other 

60% best or close friends

40%  friends 

28%  co-workers

26% roommates

The first stat makes sense given that you should be discussing sex with your girlfriend and we all share our sex lives with our closest or casual friends. The roommates and co-workers were a little odd. Unless you work with your best bud, you shouldn’t be sharing your sex life with your co-workers and your roommates know what you are up to sexually or at least what hook-ups you’ve had in a week. I mean, why would only 26% share with their roommates…they know already. 

Taking into account the percentages of people we talk about our sex lives with, Americans on average will share their sexual accounts with up to four different people. Not to go all Freudian but 17% of men share their sex life with their mothers and 20% of men share their sexual adventures with their dads. Personally speaking, I have never shared any sexual details with my mother and I think it’s downright gross. 

Who do you typically tell about your sex life?

Combat Hair Loss and Balding With These Easy Tips 

Combat Hair Loss and Balding With These Easy Tips 

A couple of years back I decided to do something about my receding hairline. Ok, fine…I’m balding and tired of losing my hair. In a moment of desperation, I decided to try Rogaine and things didn’t go well. You can read all about my month on Rogaine in this blog. Needless to say, it was not an option after some unwanted side effects.

After a recent haircut appointment, I made the decision to ask the gal that cuts my hair for advice on not losing any more of my already-receding hairline. I have been going to the same person for three years for my semi-weekly trims so I knew she would be honest.

She offered the following tips that are minimal and help keep that balding spot from growing. I’m willing to give these tips a shot.

—Wash your hair on a regular basis with a mild shampoo.   A clean scalp helps prevent dandruff and infections in your hair follicles. However, the kind of shampoo you use makes a difference. Mild shampoos do not contain fragrances or crazy chemicals that can screw up your scalp. Here’s a mild shampoo that is reasonably priced and will do the trick.

—Avoid brushing your hair while it is wet.     I have always brushed my hair while it is wet but this is a big “no-no” because your hair is weakest when it’s soaked. And here’s the second thing I’ve been doing wrong—brushing my hair too much. That’s right, hang on to more hair by running your fingers through it instead.

—Your hair does not like excessive sweating.    The term “helmet head” or “hat head” is not a myth, it’s real and can do real damage to your hair. Hats or helmets allow that sweat to make a nice home in your hair shaft which leads to weakened hair shafts and greater loss. Guys with dandruff totally get this in the summertime. If you have the balls to wear one, consider a bandana or a scarf to keep the sweat away. 

—Lose the man bun.    Guys with longer locks that ear their hair in a ponytail or guys with enough hair to pull a man bun may want to rethink that dude updo. Pulling and tearing at the hair follicles leads to less hair. 

—Check your meds.    You may be taking some medications that are actually causing you to lose your hair. Do an inventory, check the symptoms and side effects and talk to your doctor about other options or at least be aware. Just be sure to talk to your doctor about it first. 

—Dry naturally.    Hairdryers are convenient but if you can switch up your routine and allow your hair to dry, it will go a long way. The more heat you use, the more the proteins in your hair are damaged. If you can, air-dry your hair instead. Dry towels are also not recommended. 

—Scalp massages.    Not only do scalp massages feel awesome but they also help stimulate your hair follicles. Apparently, you can also rub in some essential oil, green tea and even garlic juice (not sure if it’s worth the stench) to help get your hair to grow a bit more. 

—Vitamins and supplements.    Vitamin E boosts blood circulation (which could also help with your endurance in bed) and Vitamin B helps you keep your hair color.

Give Your Sex Life a Boost With These Simple Everyday Habits 

Give Your Sex Life a Boost With These Simple Everyday Habits 

You may be surprised to know that spicing up your sex life doesn’t involve drawing warm bubble baths, lighting candles or dropping a trail of rose petals (although that wouldn’t hurt). In fact, simply incorporating these every day habits can lead to a better sex life with your partner. 

Here a list of everyday habits you should practice for a better sex life: 

Divide up the chores.   A recent survey points to a more robust sex life for couples that share in the chores such as cooking, dishwashing and grocery shopping together. It doesn’t sound very sexy but apparently sharing means caring and can be a big turn-on for women. 

Stop stressing.   Sex may relieve stress but de-stressing before having sex means better sex. Work, bills, health issues, family…the list is endless when it comes to triggers that raise our cortisol levels and block the libido we want. Whatever allows you brain dump and let go some of life’s stresses should happen before you get busy between the sheets. A light walk, an upper body workout, walking the dog or sipping on a glass of vino can be effective to unwinding. 

A better diet.   You are what you eat and this applies to your sex life as well. Certain foods can block the libido you want and need. Foods such as mint, coffee, diet drinks and sodas can screw with your screwing. Consider incorporating vitamins and supplements into your diet. Here are 11 foods that will boost your health and stamina. But before you consider changing up your diet, consult with your doctor first. 

Exercise.   Not only is regular exercise good for your body but it’s integral to your sex life as well. Consider working out at least 3 times a week for at least 30 minutes. In fact, try working out with your partner. Check out this list of exercises that every guy should do for better performance in bed. 

Consider your medications.  Anti-depressants high-blood pressure drugs have been linked to a lower libido. Consult with your physician about what medications you are taking any other options or alternative medications that work best for your body. 

Turn off the TV and turn up your sex life.  Multiple studies have shown that a TV in your bedroom can kill the mood. Television can be a big distraction from making love and that’s the last thing you want when you are trying to have a healthy sex life. If you must keep one in your bedroom, consider limiting what hours it is on. 

Lastly, if you think it’s more an emotional or commitment issue, consider seeking couples counseling. 

Guys Confess All the Nasty Rituals They Do in Private on Viral Reddit Thread 

Guys Confess All the Nasty Rituals They Do in Private on Viral Reddit Thread I’m a big fan of trending news especially ones that don’t involve politics like today’s story about a downright gross things guys do when they are alone. Admittedly, I have a few of my own rituals but here are the takeaways from the Reddit thread. If there are any women out there reading this, I hate to tell you that most of these rituals are true and most guys have done them. 

If you’ve got the stomach here are the best responses:

Eating while on the toilet (going number 2, of course).   The thread actually starts out with a Reddit user complaining that his brother was scarfing down a bowl of cereal while taking a dump. I personally have never done this but it’s not uncommon either. One of my roommates was famous for eating sandwiches while on the throne. 

Smell tests.   Yes, this particular ritual got quite a reaction with several guys weighing on doing a smell check of their armpits, behind their ears or nether regions. I can certainly relate to this and as a courtesy to my girlfriend and others, I do a quick check to make sure I don’t smell like a cricket cage. In fact, I keep ball spray on hot standby in case I need it in a pinch. I also like to use a product called, Dude Wipes. What I don’t get is that some guys reportedly found their own smells soothing. 

Peeing in the shower.   Not only do I do this on occasion but it really does save time. I am not about to hop out mid-shower to take a leak. My girlfriend also does this and neither one of us are bothered by it at all. But I can see where some germaphobes might go crazy over it. 

Blowing out snot while in the shower.  One Reddit user also admitted to doing full-on snot rockets while in the shower. I’ve done that a few times during higher allergy seasons and when I had a cold. 

Smelling your own flatulence.   I think this goes for both men and women. Although, I think most guys are more open about owning up to it and the true enjoyment of smelling your own. When I asked my girl about it she wouldn’t fess up to enjoying them. 

Peeing in the sink while brushing your teeth.   I do this as well but not on a regular basis. Shhhhh, don’t tell my GF. It’s bad enough she knows I piss in the shower. 

The explicit Reddit thread gets even odder and more disgusting even for me but feel free to check it out or chime in.

What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to Survey

What Women Consider Good Qualities in Guys According to SurveyMy Uncle Jeff had a copy of a book in his living room title, “A Man’s Guide to Understanding Women.” When you flipped through the 200 pages, you realized they were blank. 

It was a good laugh and still is today but I remember being slightly bummed out when I initially tried reading it as a teen. 

The realization that I would never get laid before I started college stressed me out more than the acne I was battling. Of course, there is always some friend in your life that thinks he has it figured out and tries feeding you the kind of advice you might get from Mike Damone from the cult classic, Fast Times at Ridgemont High. 

At least Uncle Jeff’s book was accurate. Well, turns out…what women consider good qualities in men is a bit of a surprise, according to recent surveys conducted by BestLifeOnline.com and New Jersey’s Opinion Research Corporation. Spoiler alert: it’s not “manliness” or taking control. 

The survey data is solid and the surveyors went through the trouble to ask over 1,000 women with the very drastic age range of 21-54 years old. 

As much as you need to work on those six-pack abs and not look like a general slob, women still prefer personality over looks. 

In fact, 66 percent of surveyed women feel that moral integrity is a big turn on along with kindness (at 67%). Basically, you need to have a moral compass and not be a shit bag. Just a mere 13 percent claimed to care about muscles (not that one!). 

Guys that can be faithful, have a sense of humor, be a good listener and have decent fashion sense also snagged top spots. I have to wonder…are they looking for a straight guy? 

Still, it’s good to know that some of the pressure is off and we can still work at some of these traits.

And the good news is that women still rank being good in bed as a very desired trait as well. Can’t wait to share these findings with Uncle Jeff. 

The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

The Best Sex Toys for Guys to Last Longer in Bed

In this blog, we talk quite a bit about erections, sex, foods that help erections and pretty much anything related to guys and sex. What we haven’t touched on are other methods to keep an erection outside of what to eat or what not to eat to keep your sexual stamina flowing. 

Turns out, sex toys are not only for women and can do quite a bit for guys and how long they last in bed. I recently reached out to a gal that held a sex toy party at my house for my girlfriend’s book club. I was told to make myself scarce as nervous giggles gave way to outright laughter while a living room full of woman dug into the dip and discussed the best vibrators to climax. Believe me, I would have liked to have stayed. 

What I did do was snag a business card and hit her up for some advice. She asked that I not use her name because the sex toy party franchise for which she worked would not give her permission. However, what she did allow me to share is sexual stamina gold. 

Here are the best sex toys for guys to last longer in bed:

Cock/Penis Rings 

This is essentially the go-to for guys when trying to reach and keep their climax going. Cock rings help bring more blood flow to the penis leading to more stamina. The other benefit of cock rings is that they are relatively inexpensive and very effective. What matters the most is that YOU READ the directions and follow them. Thankfully, it’s not as complicated as putting together IKEA furniture and quite harmless. 

Penis Pumps

I know what you are picturing or at least hearing in your head, Austin Powers. But penis pumps should be your bag, baby, because the right one does work. Again, like the cock ring, it’s all about the blood flow to your penis and more importantly, increasing the blood flow. I was warned that it’s all about the frequency or consistency of using your penis pump. The more you use it on a regular basis the better and longer your erections. 

Lubricants and Salves

Lubes work and I have been personally using them along with ED natural supplements for a good five years. I use an erection stimulating cream that does exactly what its name implies. But there is more than one type. The other helps stave off sensation without killing it entirely which keeps you from having to think about Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day or following Frankie’s advice and Relax. I would rather feel all the sensation so the lube is a better avenue for me. 

Masturbation Sleeves

The best part about this sexual stamina aid is that practice makes perfect. Simply use it while treating your body as your personal amusement park. Using a masturbation sleeve not only eliminates the need to use your left hand as a “stranger” but it aids in learning to have more control over your orgasms and that’s the whole point to lasting longer.

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Guys Still Expect Women to Keep a Clean Home Says New Studies

Not one but three recently-published studies found that men still want women to keep a clean house but the same is not expected of men. 

After (admittedly) only skimming all three studies, I wanted to share my perspective as a guy that keeps a tidy house and why I still hold women to the same standard and can’t understand why women don’t do the same to men.

Let’s start by going way back to the mid-90s. At the time I was still in college and busting my ass waiting tables at night. One evening after finishing my shift I picked up a girl that had what I call, “catnip.” She wasn’t pretty but she had a sexy vibe about her, a great figure and was super uninhibiated—all turn-ons for guys. 

One drink led to another and I took her back to my place. I hadn’t planned on getting laid that night so my apartment was not picked-up but not filthy either. I might have had some dishes in the sink and maybe a pair of dirty boxers on the floor but nothing had really accumulated. 

However, the piece of shit car that I drove her home that night was so clean you could eat off the floor. I remember her asking for a drink and asking to slip off to use the bathroom. As I fumbled through my nightstand trying to locate a condom, she emerged from the bathroom wearing nothing but a smile. It was a night of some of the best sex I have ever had. 

This, of course, led to another hook-up night. This time, she picked me up in her ride—a glorified sports car for the working class, the Geo Storm. 

I opened the door only to be hit with the pungent odor of what smelled like cat piss. But if that wasn’t enough to shock me, the floor of the car could not be seen because it was covered in compressed piles of old convenience-store cups, fast-food chain wrappers, and petrified french fries. The cloth seats also had so many stains that it was impossible to figure out the actual color. Assuming those stains might contain urine, I asked for a napkin to sit on. She obliged and fished out a stack of napkins from her glove compartment which appeared to have deep scratches from a rabid animal. 

The backseat was even worse. When I asked her how long she had had the car, she said it was less than a year old. I was already turned off before we even got to her apartment. My mind raced to wonder how nasty her place would be if her car looked like this. My suspicions and fears were confirmed.  In a metal cage in the corner, her wildlife aggressively tried to escape its confines to either attack me or more likely, take another piss. 

Turns out, she had a pet raccoon and the smell in her place matched the smell in her car.  Like her car, every surface was covered in discarded take-out boxes which made sense since she ran out of clean dishes and cookware which sat in the sink with the memory of old meals still stuck to its insides. 

This was not my proudest moment but while she readied herself in the bathroom, I bolted out of there, tracked down a payphone and called a buddy for a ride. 

I’m sure my actions hurt her enough to share the story with her friends over coffee or a cocktail but I was seriously concerned that I was going to catch an STD (thankfully, we had used a condom earlier). This is an extreme case but from that day forward—a made it a point to never date a woman that keeps a filthy car and to make sure that I never let my place get that disgusting either. I mean, if that was enough to turn me off to amazing sex, then I wondered how women would feel about that dirty pair of boxers or the fact that I hadn’t given two craps about simply rinsing food from my dishes.

To this day, I am a bit of a neat freak and I do most of the cleaning. My girlfriend appreciates this immensely and it makes our relationship much better.

Women should be holding men to a higher standard of cleanliness than they do and men should not have to feel like dickheads for not hooking up with a girl that doesn’t have enough sense to run a dishwasher or keep her floors clean enough that you can see the original color. 

Women (and this is just my opinion) typically have a harder time living with dirty boxers on the floor or whiskers clinging to toothpaste droppings in the sink, but you may have to start leaving it there for us guys to clean. Believe me, we will eventually cave because no one wants to look at that crap long term. 

As for guys, it’s time we all held ourselves to the same standard of cleanliness that is expected of our girlfriends and wives because no one wants to live like it’s Joe’s Apartment. 

In fact, another study published last year found that guys that bother to help out with household chores and grocery shopping had better sex and that’s a study we can all get behind.